i really really want to be in a sorority!!

[BrieT]

Originally Posted by i <3 myself

hey so like one of my friends told me tht you guys on this website will answer all of my greek relaed qustions, so here goes:::

i go to Alabama and im a freshman and i reallly wanted to rush but i got waaaaay too intinidated bc all of the sorority girls there are really beautiful and i always thought of myself as gorgeous, thats what everybody in highschool said, and well i pretty much got scared and didnt go thru rush. now 1 of my best friends in high school joined a sorority and i feel like were not firneds anymore and if i join a different house than her ill make her feel bad. so i really want to be in a top house. i mean im prettier than her so it shouldnt be too hard right? and i make semigood grades and ive always been able to get guys so that should help too right?? anyway i guess my question is should i rush in the spring or the fall?? what do u guys recommend as far as when i should rush and which top house i should aim for??

thanks in advance,
aimee

If i were you i would quit worrying so much about being in a top house and find a group of girls that you fit into. that's what being in a sorority is about. it isnt about being with the most popular girls on campus, or whose prettier. that's shallow. and if those are the reason you want to be in a sorority then you should really rethink your decision. a sorority is about finding a bond that you will share with these women forever. and who cares about what your friend thinks? if she doesnt talk to you just because you go to a different house, then she wasnt your friend in the first place.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by BrieT

If i were you i would quit worrying so much about being in a top house and find a group of girls that you fit into. that's what being in a sorority is about. it isnt about being with the most popular girls on campus, or whose prettier. that's shallow. and if those are the reason you want to be in a sorority then you should really rethink your decision.

*This response is not directed at BrieT*

I see statements like this one pretty often on GC. But, in reality, don't all of our organizations have members who started out like this? There are people out there who choose majors, jobs, cars, mates, etc. based on popularity, money, etc.

Those same people are in our organizations. You'd hope over time that we'd all begin to realize what's important in life.

In any case, when GCers advise PNMs and aspirants not to look at the most popular organizations, but to find the organizations they fit best into...well, what if the organization they fit into is an organization that is composed of people who are concerned about looks, popularity and money?

We all want different things out of life.

[33girl]

I don't think anyone is saying that every single member - or even themselves - went through rush with only the most lofty of intentions. I'm sure out there is a sorority woman who just joined to meet a husband and wound up national president. The thing is the utter lack of social skills about the OP's posts.

The one sorority on my campus that I thought was just about being popular - I've seen these girls 20 years later, and there are still true bonds there. I think any chapter that's only about status and has no bonding whatsoever won't last.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I don't think anyone is saying that every single member - or even themselves - went through rush with only the most lofty of intentions. I'm sure out there is a sorority woman who just joined to meet a husband and wound up national president. The thing is the utter lack of social skills about the OP's posts.

The one sorority on my campus that I thought was just about being popular - I've seen these girls 20 years later, and there are still true bonds there. I think any chapter that's only about status and has no bonding whatsoever won't last.

I was really just making a general comment. It's been established that the OP isn't worth comment!

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by BrieT

If i were you i would quit worrying so much about being in a top house and find a group of girls that you fit into. that's what being in a sorority is about. it isnt about being with the most popular girls on campus, or whose prettier. that's shallow. and if those are the reason you want to be in a sorority then you should really rethink your decision. a sorority is about finding a bond that you will share with these women forever. and who cares about what your friend thinks? if she doesnt talk to you just because you go to a different house, then she wasnt your friend in the first place.

Look, guys - the OP was sad that her thread died out, so she created another username to bump it. Are we really going to give her that kind of satisfaction?