Revealing a crush

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Looking back, I am not sure how successfully subtle I was, but as a woman, I felt more comfortable in providing opportunities for the other person to take initiative.

Amen. And came to the conclusion that if they didn't, they didn't have the balls to deal with me and it would have crash and burned anyway.

And Gusteau is definitely right in saying that just telling someone you like them is wimping out. That person may just say "what the hell" and anything from go out to sleep with you anyway - as a smart friend of mine said, they have nothing to lose and everything to gain, even if they can't stand you. They know you like them and you will take their actions as reciprocating the affection, even if it's just about feeding your ego or getting laid.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

It's been eons since this scenario would apply to me, but I used to rely on dropping social cues, such as a glance-one-second-too-long, or mirroring body language, etc., to gauge interest. Just enough for the person to wonder, "is she interested?", but not long enough to be sure. That gave the other person a chance to pick up on it and make the first move, or to shrug it off and forget it.

Looking back, I am not sure how successfully subtle I was, but as a woman, I felt more comfortable in providing opportunities for the other person to take initiative.

THIS.

Originally Posted by 33girl

Amen. And came to the conclusion that if they didn't, they didn't have the balls to deal with me and it would have crash and burned anyway.

And Gusteau is definitely right in saying that just telling someone you like them is wimping out. That person may just say "what the hell" and anything from go out to sleep with you anyway - as a smart friend of mine said, they have nothing to lose and everything to gain, even if they can't stand you. They know you like them and you will take their actions as reciprocating the affection, even if it's just about feeding your ego or getting laid.

And THIS.