Asking daddy's permission before proposing

[agzg]

My dad would be more concerned that we didn't get married in a church by a pastor than whether or not live-in asked his permission.

As it is, I would like live-in to warn dad a little bit. Asking for permission or blessing, though, no.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by agzg

As it is, I would like live-in to warn dad a little bit.

Warn?

Do you mean, give a heads up?

[agzg]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Warn?

Do you mean, give a heads up?

LOL yes - something like "Hey - I was hoping to propose to agzg sometime in the next few months. Just a heads up not to have a heart attack when she calls you and tells you."

My dad doesn't deal with surprises well.

The only problem with that is that my dad has a big mouth - so everyone in my hometown basically and probably others will know before I do.

[Smile_Awhile]

I would hope that my future husband would ask for my father's blessing. I'd rather not have him ask for his permission- I am my own woman. However, I was raised thinking that the right thing is to have their blessing before he asks for my hand. If I had a strained relationship with my parents, I would understand not desiring that- but I have a great relationship with them.

Funny story: When my father asked my grandfather for his blessing, my grandfather's immediate reaction was "How much land do you own?" My grandparents are farmers, so it makes sense in context- he has always said "Land is forever, and it's limited."