Asking daddy's permission before proposing

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

I absolutely want my future husband to ask for my father's blessing and have my father walk me down the aisle. I guess it is your right to be offended at the history of those traditions, but to me I choose to see it as a nice tradition that speaks to the bond I have with my father. I don't take the historical implications too seriously.

Like I said, it's your choice if you want to honor those traditions. And it's great that you have such a close bond with your father.

In case it wasn't obvious ( ) my relationship with my father is... uhh, let's just say "not good".

I prefer a more egalitarian approach. If a couple is going to ask one parent (the father of the bride) for permission, ask them all. The bride has a mother, right? The groom has parents? Why shouldn't they get a say? And that's totally leaving aside the permutations of step-parents, etc.

[DrPhil]

I didn't read this thread so I missed where people are aggressive and fired up about what other people do with their lives.

Originally Posted by aephi alum

And it's great that you have such a close bond with your father.

In case it wasn't obvious ( ) my relationship with my father is... uhh, let's just say "not good".

I prefer a more egalitarian approach. If a couple is going to ask one parent (the father of the bride) for permission, ask them all. The bride has a mother, right? The groom has parents? Why shouldn't they get a say? And that's totally leaving aside the permutations of step-parents, etc.

As with all opinions, people with different backgrounds share opinions. The line isn't being drawn between those who are close to their fathers and those who aren't.

I'm EXTREMELY close to my father (and mother). I talk to him like 3 times a day everyday. We crack each other up. Jokes galore.

BUT, I disagree with asking for a father's blessings (and parents' blessings, kinda) for marriage, and preferred an egalitarian approach if asking for blessings was deemed important.