Capitalist vs. Socialistic

[jwright25]

Originally Posted by thetygerlily

Fraternities generally are more of a free-for-all, less structured, visit who you want when you want. My husband went through at the same time as me and his recruitment was basically "hey, we played soccer together. Want a bid? Come to the house and we'll give you one." Granted, I think that was pushing things a bit and was likely much more casual than most, but it was a stark difference from what I went through.

This has been my observant experience with fraternity recruitment. I also believe that their more relaxed recruitment is related to the fact that most fraternities have a relatively easy process set in place for "blackballing" or booting guys out prior to initiation. So basically they are recruiting during the whole pledge term to determine who is worthy of membership. On many campuses, it is normal to have 40 pledges but only initiate 25. If that were to happen in NPC world, all kinds of red flags would be raised. We have to figure out who is worthy of membership in 3 or 4 nights of singing and dancing. Yes, NPC groups have standards procedures for releasing pledges who are problem-children, but if that process is used too much, it's an indication of deeper issues.

Don't get me wrong - I think what we are doing now is the best option. And violetpretty's note about NPC's advocating no-frills is a step in the right direction to take out any perceived superficiality and move toward selection based on values and actual human interaction / relationships.

Regarding deferred recruitment. I think it works well on some campuses, but there are others where it would become a breeding ground for dirty rushing, I'm afraid. The tent talk would be spread out over a whole semester, and PNMs would be influenced by men as well. I don't see how it would help the struggling chapter when PNMs have a whole semester to "fall in love" with the stronger groups. One of the goals of RFM is to manage PNM expectations and let them explore realistic options rather than spending extra time with chapters that they have no chance of joining. With deferred, they just get their hopes up over a longer period of time.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by jwright25

I don't see how it would help the struggling chapter when PNMs have a whole semester to "fall in love" with the stronger groups.

Or OUT of love. They get to see them warts & all, not just prettied up for rush. No group can have every member be totally perfect for an entire semester/year.

Also consider that there are women who get to college who say NWIH are they interested in sororities, but then get to know the members personally over a semester or so and reconsider. Not to mention there are still 1st gen college students out there who if they HAD to rush first semester, would have no clue what they were doing.

I agree with Zillini that if you have a huge physical plant to sustain, unless you do some sort of giant switcheroo as far as housing terms are concerned, you kind of have to do the first semester thing.

@thetygerlily...if freshmen talk themselves out of rushing, or think that it's unnecessary because they've found other activities...they probably would have been crappy members anyway. Stop worrying about the freshmen and reach out to the upperclassmen who've been around a while and feel like they're lacking something. Quota of 6 at a school that small is nothing to sneeze at...considering at one state school near here, their quota was less than that, and they have 13,000 students.

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by 33girl

if freshmen talk themselves out of rushing, or think that it's unnecessary because they've found other activities...they probably would have been crappy members anyway. Stop worrying about the freshmen and reach out to the upperclassmen who've been around a while and feel like they're lacking something.

I disagree with the crappy members statement. I almost didn't go through because there was a large "you don't need that" mentality, and I hope I've not been a crappy member. Many women who do go through do so because one or two people talked them into it (myself included; if I hadn't met one particular person I might not have gone through). How much would change if recruitment happened first term? I honestly don't know. But I would be surprised if it had lower turnouts. As for reaching out to upperclassmen, we did. In my initiation class, 4 of 11 were sophomores (we were one of the super huge years... the following year was just 4). And COR during the other two terms usually resulted in 2-4 upperclassmen per year. Rushing as an upperclassmen had no ill effect on one's chances through formal or informal.

ETA: I wish I had kept a journal my freshman year. I'd love to look back on my actual thoughts at the time rather than several years later. I have one from sophomore on... but that's just not the same! I'm insanely jealous of people who can look back on their rush experiences and other events and see their in-the-moment thoughts. They should put "keep a journal" in the freshmen orientation booklets!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by thetygerlily

I disagree with the crappy members statement. I almost didn't go through because there was a large "you don't need that" mentality, and I hope I've not been a crappy member. Many women who do go through do so because one or two people talked them into it (myself included; if I hadn't met one particular person I might not have gone through).

But you DID go through. That's my point. I honestly believe that people who let themselves be talked out of things want to be talked out of them (and vice versa)...yes even at age 18.

I didn't mean that upperclassmen had a disadvantage, I meant that worrying how many "out of 350 freshmen" went through rush or signed a bid card isn't getting you anywhere. Just keep reaching out to all students.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by jwright25

Regarding deferred recruitment. I think it works well on some campuses, but there are others where it would become a breeding ground for dirty rushing, I'm afraid. The tent talk would be spread out over a whole semester, and PNMs would be influenced by men as well. I don't see how it would help the struggling chapter when PNMs have a whole semester to "fall in love" with the stronger groups. One of the goals of RFM is to manage PNM expectations and let them explore realistic options rather than spending extra time with chapters that they have no chance of joining. With deferred, they just get their hopes up over a longer period of time.

Ah, but remember, my suggestion allows for plenty of interaction between members and PNMs first semester, especially in a Panhellenic environment. First semester is an opportunity for struggling/lower tier/weaker/smaller/whatever to go out and meet PNMs in their classes, activities, dorms, etc. Person to person interaction is what gets women to join. So, while some PNMs may fall in love with top groups, there will be PNMs that will love smaller chapters for the women in them.