Disappointing recruitment--why wasn't I chosen?

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

When I first read her post, I had the reaction you are having, and then I realized she must have been thinking about the not-custodial step-parents and step siblings who never lived in the same household. It was still a pretty thoughtless comment for her to have made, no doubt, but maybe it's not the case that she considers all step-relationships as less valid than blood relationships.

I have five stepsiblings, and both of my parents are remarried. I have lived with and am close to some of my stepsiblings, and not lived with and am not close to some of them. I am close to one step-parent and not to the other. Just as I didn't use "legacy status" with my step-parents when applying to colleges, I wouldn't use it for sororities with any of my stepfamily. That is my personal situation, and perhaps I didn't speak properly in my previous post.

What I said isn't meant to invalidate others' relationships/legacy status with their stepfamilies. And no, I absolutely would not think that of adopted children! That was pretty thoughtless of you yourself VandalSquirrel...ever think that the person you're attacking could be adopted?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by lkjl2007

And no, I absolutely would not think that of adopted children! That was pretty thoughtless of you yourself VandalSquirrel...ever think that the person you're attacking could be adopted?

You were the one who threw out the phrase "blood relative", toots.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by lkjl2007

I have five stepsiblings, and both of my parents are remarried. I have lived with and am close to some of my stepsiblings, and not lived with and am not close to some of them. I am close to one step-parent and not to the other. Just as I didn't use "legacy status" with my step-parents when applying to colleges, I wouldn't use it for sororities with any of my stepfamily. That is my personal situation, and perhaps I didn't speak properly in my previous post.

What I said isn't meant to invalidate others' relationships/legacy status with their stepfamilies. And no, I absolutely would not think that of adopted children! That was pretty thoughtless of you yourself VandalSquirrel...ever think that the person you're attacking could be adopted?

Originally Posted by 33girl

You were the one who threw out the phrase "blood relative", toots.

I completely agree with 33girl, I'm using your own words. Sorry you feel that's an attack, but if you go around saying things like that it probably isn't going to help you gain membership to a sorority. Ever think that the people around you might take offense to "actual blood relative?" furthermore you're a sophomore, and you may not realize what you say around campus and who is hearing it (this is what we mean by reputation). I'm an alumna and I hear things because I still live in town and am on campus taking courses for grad. school admissions, it can and does happen, and in some cases we tell our friends in other sororities about questionable behavior/people. We've got to narrow down the pool somehow...