A few questions...help please?

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

Excuse me, but my attitude is not "crappy". I went in with an open mind. The reason I said they were "desperate" is because they were pitching it to me REALLY hard. I do not want to feel pressured into joining a sorority. I want to join it because that's where I feel the most comfortable. And with the way they were acting, I wasn't very comfortable around them.


AXOrushadvisor, thank you for your input. It really helped a lot.

So are you saying that there is no possibility that maybe they just wanted you as a sister that much? That only people who were desperate for members would want you to join?

[jf_eighty9]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

So are you saying that there is no possibility that maybe they just wanted you as a sister that much? That only people who were desperate for members would want you to join?

Well with the way they were doing everything, I don't know. Maybe they did really want me as a sister or maybe they just wanted bigger numbers. But either way, I was a little turned off about how they were presenting everything.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

Well with the way they were doing everything, I don't know. Maybe they did really want me as a sister or maybe they just wanted bigger numbers. But either way, I was a little turned off about how they were presenting everything.

Just as an FYI: There are some sorority members who may be new at talking to PNMs and are nervous, so they tend to talk more about the sorority rather than getting to know the PNMs (without realizing it). It's not something that is intentional all the time.

[jf_eighty9]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Just as an FYI: There are some sorority members who may be new at talking to PNMs and are nervous, so they tend to talk more about the sorority rather than getting to know the PNMs (without realizing it). It's not something that is intentional all the time.

I actually think you might be right. They're sort of new on campus (established about a few years ago) so it totally makes sense.

Originally Posted by Bella796

Does anyone else think the OP lied about being a legacy and they found out and dropped her b.c of that? just reading between the lines, not sure why anyone would ask something like that.

I wouldn't lie about being a legacy. It's like what Kansas_City said. My parents weren't in the Greek system but my cousins were. I listed them down and I guess it's not considered "legacy" at my school.

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Originally Posted by als463

There's that "I didn't feel a connection" crap, again! Stop with that bad attitude and thinking you are "too good" for these other houses that were supposedly "desperate" for a girl.

The house that I didn't feel a connection with IS a top house, but I'm not sure if it's worth it if I couldn't even keep a conversation going with some of the girls.

[UGAalum94]

It's probably not a "legacy" anywhere, but some chapters might give a cousin special consideration.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

I actually think you might be right. They're sort of new on campus (established about a few years ago) so it totally makes sense.

Right. This is something they've never done. So I wouldn't call it "desperation," so much as just being inexperienced.

I personally wouldn't discount them in the middle of recruitment. As I said before, dropping out and rushing again next year does not always yield a different or better result.

I suggest staying in recruitment at least until Preference and just seeing what happens.