A few questions...help please?

[jf_eighty9]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

You attitude is crappy and you deserve getting cut from whatever houses you got cut from. Once you get cut from a house at recruitment, they won't show up on your schedule again. Some houses have a "once cut, always cut" rule, so you may not ever got a shot with the ones you wanted, even in future recruitments.

Hope that helps!

Excuse me, but my attitude is not "crappy". I went in with an open mind. The reason I said they were "desperate" is because they were pitching it to me REALLY hard. I do not want to feel pressured into joining a sorority. I want to join it because that's where I feel the most comfortable. And with the way they were acting, I wasn't very comfortable around them.


AXOrushadvisor, thank you for your input. It really helped a lot.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

Excuse me, but my attitude is not "crappy". I went in with an open mind. The reason I said they were "desperate" is because they were pitching it to me REALLY hard. I do not want to feel pressured into joining a sorority. I want to join it because that's where I feel the most comfortable. And with the way they were acting, I wasn't very comfortable around them.


AXOrushadvisor, thank you for your input. It really helped a lot.

So are you saying that there is no possibility that maybe they just wanted you as a sister that much? That only people who were desperate for members would want you to join?

[jf_eighty9]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

So are you saying that there is no possibility that maybe they just wanted you as a sister that much? That only people who were desperate for members would want you to join?

Well with the way they were doing everything, I don't know. Maybe they did really want me as a sister or maybe they just wanted bigger numbers. But either way, I was a little turned off about how they were presenting everything.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

Well with the way they were doing everything, I don't know. Maybe they did really want me as a sister or maybe they just wanted bigger numbers. But either way, I was a little turned off about how they were presenting everything.

Just as an FYI: There are some sorority members who may be new at talking to PNMs and are nervous, so they tend to talk more about the sorority rather than getting to know the PNMs (without realizing it). It's not something that is intentional all the time.

[jf_eighty9]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Just as an FYI: There are some sorority members who may be new at talking to PNMs and are nervous, so they tend to talk more about the sorority rather than getting to know the PNMs (without realizing it). It's not something that is intentional all the time.

I actually think you might be right. They're sort of new on campus (established about a few years ago) so it totally makes sense.

Originally Posted by Bella796

Does anyone else think the OP lied about being a legacy and they found out and dropped her b.c of that? just reading between the lines, not sure why anyone would ask something like that.

I wouldn't lie about being a legacy. It's like what Kansas_City said. My parents weren't in the Greek system but my cousins were. I listed them down and I guess it's not considered "legacy" at my school.

**EDIT:

Originally Posted by als463

There's that "I didn't feel a connection" crap, again! Stop with that bad attitude and thinking you are "too good" for these other houses that were supposedly "desperate" for a girl.

The house that I didn't feel a connection with IS a top house, but I'm not sure if it's worth it if I couldn't even keep a conversation going with some of the girls.

[UGAalum94]

It's probably not a "legacy" anywhere, but some chapters might give a cousin special consideration.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

I actually think you might be right. They're sort of new on campus (established about a few years ago) so it totally makes sense.

Right. This is something they've never done. So I wouldn't call it "desperation," so much as just being inexperienced.

I personally wouldn't discount them in the middle of recruitment. As I said before, dropping out and rushing again next year does not always yield a different or better result.

I suggest staying in recruitment at least until Preference and just seeing what happens.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

The reason I said they were "desperate" is because they were pitching it to me REALLY hard.

Some chapters and members of chapters are just not good at remaining subtle when they like a PNM or even just really want to do a good job at recruiting. Unfortunately, if a chapter has smaller numbers, those members can't hide by finding some other way to help out during recruitment. Try not to hold it against an entire chapter, and that doesn't necessarily mean they're desperate.

I'm a HORRIBLE recruiter. I come off as pushy and over eager, and in general am just the world's suckiest recruiter. I realize that.

After my first formal recruitment I was a rho gamma because I figured out that that was the best way I could help all the chapters, including my own. I also had the opportunity during informal to take more of a behind-the-scenes role, plus I was more comfortable because less pressure on PNMs means less pressure on the chapters as well.

In your situation, I guess that little anecdote is neither here nor there. I would agree with other posters that your attitude could use a little adjustment. In my opinion, it's never appropriate to just drop without exploring all the options available to you. You may be surprised.

I will never understand why PNMs have it in their heads that dropping early means they'll have different results next year.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by agzg

I will never understand why PNMs have it in their heads that dropping early means they'll have different results next year.

THIS.

Dropping out does NOT = everything will be better next year and I'll get a bid from a chapter that dropped me.

If a chapter drops you, it is not very likely that you will be invited back there next year.

Next year, the PNM pool will be different, and the memberships of the chapters will include different women. They may not be interested in you.

All this to say, just wait and see how things play out. You could potentially get invited back to every chapter you like.

But should you not, keep in mind that next year doesn't always = better results.