bid match ups

[LionTamer]

If it makes you feel any better, as far as I know (and you "Recruitment Professionals" - feel free to correct me) the general membership does not SEE their sorority's bid list. So with the exception of the Recruitment Chair, most of the girls in your first choice chapter will assume you CHOSE your 2nd choice.

If quota is 20 and 60 girls came to their Preference Parties, they may know who makes the top 20 (and I doubt that), but they don't know who was #21 on their list, or who was down at #60. Even after we started making quota easily, we always assumed when someone went elsewhere it was their own choice.

And I can tell you for certain that the Recruitment Chair in your second choice chapter doesn't know that they weren't your first choice.

[Save Ferris]

Originally Posted by LionTamer

If it makes you feel any better, as far as I know (and you "Recruitment Professionals" - feel free to correct me) the general membership does not SEE their sorority's bid list. So with the exception of the Recruitment Chair, most of the girls in your first choice chapter will assume you CHOSE your 2nd choice.

Yeah, I don't know much about logistics about it but I can't imagine why the other members would have access to the list.

Becca, keep your head up. It's truly nothing personal. Perhaps you should examine why you "really" didn't like the second choice sorority. If you put them on your pref card as second, they did better than the other five (who you cut/didn't go back to). There must have been a reason you liked them enough to list them on your pref card. Just because they weren't your number one originally doesn't mean they couldn't become your number one eventually.

However, if you truly know in your heart that you wouldn't be happy at your second choice, find out about informal recruitment/go through formal again next year. It wouldn't be fair to you and the sorority to accept a bid that you truly didn't want (as long as it was for lack of connection rather than something like status on campus). On the other hand, are you giving them a fair chance? It's possible that you loved your first choice so much and are stuck in the idea of being one and can't even imagine being your second choice.

I obviously don't know why you didn't like the second sorority and won't pretend that I know. However, consider if you could eventually be happy there. If you know you couldn't, it's not fair to accept the bid (if you haven't declined/still able to accept bids).

As corny as it sounds, listen to your heart. *cue Disney moment*

[AZ-AlphaXi]

Originally Posted by LionTamer

And I can tell you for certain that the Recruitment Chair in your second choice chapter doesn't know that they weren't your first choice.

If you don't tell what your preference/bid card rankings were, no one in the chapter will know who you put first and who you put second or even third (if that's an option)

[lyrelyre]

Originally Posted by LionTamer

If it makes you feel any better, as far as I know (and you "Recruitment Professionals" - feel free to correct me) the general membership does not SEE their sorority's bid list. So with the exception of the Recruitment Chair, most of the girls in your first choice chapter will assume you CHOSE your 2nd choice.

It is my understanding that this varies from organization to organization and even chapter to chapter.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by lyrelyre

It is my understanding that this varies from organization to organization and even chapter to chapter.

yeah, I think if a chapter is small enough, everyone knows darned well that if a certain PNM doesn't show up on the bid list, something shady happened. (I am talking 40 members or under)