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A few words from the Reluctant One:
In the last few weeks the Reluctant One has shared a few tidbits about what makes a recruitment (in her view) more or less successful. For future PNMs (and feel free to disagree GreekChatters) a few words from my daughter who had no intention of pledging, but did, and happily.
Pay attention to the PNMs around you. They may become your good friend or a pledge sister. You are not competing with them. Your job is not to sabotage others.
Clothing: Never underestimate the power of appropriate clothes that speak to who you are as a person. Yes, the booklet said "casual", but despite the pictures of G--awful capris, the girls who wore sundresses that had a bit of personality seem to leave a better impression. (Mother's note: I know that she did not mean expensive dresses were the ticket to success. Yes, I admit that I purchased much of what she wore and I am very good at shopping. But I always asked, after picking out several items, the youngest most in fashion salesperson to get input.) Remember, you are going into someone's home. On the other hand, do not let Great Aunt Sally dress you. My daughter saw several girls who were dressed by a well meaning relative. Let's just say it didn't work out well. And be flexible. You may have the "perfect" dress for Prefs, but if it is too hot/cold be ready to change it up.
LISTEN: Listen to what the sisters are saying to you about themselves and their house. Most girls seem to want to talk about themselves and not listen to what is being said to them. Listen to PARTS of the tent talk. Some reputations are importent to understand and be aware (notice I did not say forewarned).
Do not try or aspire to be someone you aren't: The Reluctant One mentioned that the fit, as it is called, is hard to define. This comes under Listening and under (very few of you will know the reference but...) do not believe that "Any sorority that wants you isn't good enough for you." (Thank you Groucho Marx) Sometimes no matter how much you "love" a house the sisters just know that you aren't, for whatever reason, for them. Move on.
Don't Lie: So obvious but boy does it happen! The Reluctant One knows a girl (they grew up together, so she really knows the girl) who was going through recruitment for the second time. Ms. Sophomore let it be known to everyone that last year she received a bid from ABC, a top tier house. She said that she turned it down because ...because....No, it didn't happen. The bid I mean. The houses all heard and she had a very bad time. Sophomores are routinely placed here. It was her. Oh...this is from the Reluctant One who is rather sophisticated: What you do in the dorms and on campus (not just on Facebook) becomes known. Ms. Sophomore had a rep, some pnms developed them really fast. (Mom's note: I think that the PNM meant that while you don't have to be a saint, but don't screw up and make a fool of yourself.)
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