STILL SO VERY HOPEFUL!

[ladygreek]

Exactly

[mccoyred]

While I agree with your ultimate conclusion, and even the questions that one should ask themselves, I disagree with your ASSumptions. You have NO IDEA what types of arrangements are being made. Everyone must assign their own priorities based on their unique situation.

Originally Posted by Spinderella

Been away for quite a long time, living life and doing me but.....

Precious Diva 88, here is my very humble opinion. I too was a 'hopeful' and didn't make grad chapter. I am married with 2 kids. Trust when I say, the lifelong commitment of being a member should never conflict with your priority to take care of your child.

I ask you, first, who is caring for your child when you are at all these events trying to make yourself known?

Second, if you are granted this wish, who will care for your child when you are in the process?

Third, who will keep your child if you become a neophyte and are busy running around to your committee meetings and all? As an outsider looking in, a committed member COULD be out of the home in the evenings atleast 2-3 times a week before AND after becoming a member.

In the chapters in MY neck of the woods, providing childcare for members, who are working in the name of Delta, has definitely not seemed to be a priority.

If it is sisterhood you are craving, like most mommies do, reconnect with other mother-friends and make yourself content. Being away from your son during his formative years, is not worth the sacrifice. I have witnessed women who left thier kids home alone to go off and handle business for the organization, and no one ever seemed to care that these women were mothers. No one ever asked, 'Hey, I know you are single, where are the kids?' All that mattered was accomplishing the business of the chapter.

Delta will have been around for 100 years in 2013. You have made it with out the organization this long AND THEY HAVE MADE IT WITHOUT YOU; consider that you can wait until after your child is out of the house and is self sufficient.

Good Luck and be a mother first.

[treblk]

I'm I wrong to ask non members of Delta and NPHC not to give their opinions..is it wrong? I just wanna know

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

God answered your question despite how you tried to go around God and ask GC.

LMAOOOOO

I missed this.

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by treblk

I'm I wrong to ask non members of Delta and NPHC not to give their opinions..is it wrong? I just wanna know

nope. you wouldn't be.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by treblk

I'm I wrong to ask non members of Delta and NPHC not to give their opinions..is it wrong? I just wanna know

Nope. Membership has its privileges.

[Spinderella]

Originally Posted by treblk

I'm I wrong to ask non members of Delta and NPHC not to give their opinions..is it wrong? I just wanna know

Its the internet. Opinions run rampant, no matter the source.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by Spinderella

Its the internet. Opinions run rampant, no matter the source.

Well they shouldn't when you are not the recipient of the question and know nothing about the workings of the orgs to which the subject pertains.

[libramunoz]

Originally Posted by Spinderella

Its the internet. Opinions run rampant, no matter the source.

Let me do you a favor by telling you this one thing--and remember, unlike you, I have a clue---

SHUT to the UP!

[libramunoz]

Better yet Spin, let me spell things out for you so that you have an rampant opinion--even on the internet!
S= speaking out of turn when nobody asked you too.
H= having the need to type when you're clueless about the situation
U= understanding that this has nothing to do with you
T= typing without thinking

U= undulating constant nonsense and thinking you're right
P= posing as someone with sense whose about to be embarrassed

What's this all spell--do yourself a favor and Shut Up now because you're embarrassing yourself.

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by Spinderella

Its the internet. Opinions run rampant, no matter the source.

wow. just because its the internet folks feel that they can forget about deference and respect.

i hope u never become a Delta just for that.

ETA

Originally Posted by libramunoz

Let me do you a favor by telling you this one thing--and remember, unlike you, I have a clue---

SHUT to the UP!

lol!! you kill me. and it rhymes too. i didn't refresh when i came to this message; had i seen that you already did all that i'd have kept my unnecessary two cents. lmao

[Spinderella]

Originally Posted by PreciousDiva88

Hello ladies, i need some advice..well these past couple of years i have been so very intrested in Delta Sigma Theta ive attended parties, participated in the annual summer program jabberwock, made life longs friends with girls who are now Deltas through different events, particiapted in many community service orgs. and i held a position in my universitys Student Government, but all of that had to stop because i became pregnant with a beautiful baby boy..now that my son is a little older ive decided to return to school but i still want to persue my dream of becoming a Delta, so i wanted to know can i still pledge even though i have a baby, or will it be a bad look for me trying to pledge and i have a baby? Any advice will be helpful Thanks in advance

Will it be a bad look for me trying to pledge and i have a baby?

That is the question. The thread barely addressed the question until I offered my observations and opinions about childcare and the commitments of pursuing membership. Until that point, all that was said was a bunch of back and forth that had nothing to do with the child in the original question.

But perhaps, the short answer I could give, is for the area I am in, having a child is NOT a bad look, because to the women I dealt with, the child was a non-entity. Issues related to children were considered an excuse that needed to be worked out.

Deference, I know what it means, but on this, there was no real discussion to defer an opinion to, since the issue of the child was not addressed.

I have no counter opinion to those who thought I should not have said anything at all, so you can say I have exercised 'deference'. I was not speaking to you; I was speaking to the originator of the thread. I told her the same thing I would tell an aspirant in 'real' life.

That. Is. All.

[Spinderella]

Originally Posted by libramunoz

Better yet Spin, let me spell things out for you so that you have an rampant opinion--even on the internet!
S= speaking out of turn when nobody asked you too.
H= having the need to type when you're clueless about the situation
U= understanding that this has nothing to do with you
T= typing without thinking

U= undulating constant nonsense and thinking you're right
P= posing as someone with sense whose about to be embarrassed

What's this all spell--do yourself a favor and Shut Up now because you're embarrassing yourself.

Wow, real Script's Howard material. Excellent.

[ladyleo4life]

PreciousDiva88-

I've have never read anything that says having a child barred a person from becoming a member of DST. As long as you fulfill the academic and community service requirements, I would encourage you to pursue your goal. Good luck!

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ladyleo4life

PreciousDiva88-

I've have never read anything that says having a child barred a person from becoming a member of DST. As long as you fulfill the academic and community service requirements, I would encourage you to pursue your goal. Good luck!

This is funny coming from someone who doesn't know what Delta Week is and came here to find out basic application information. If you have read so much about Delta, why do you not know the answers to your questions?