STILL SO VERY HOPEFUL!

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

good grief, libramunoz

I'm saying. That child isn't worth all of that. In fact I think she is perping a prospect.

[MeezDiscreet]

Originally Posted by PreciousDiva88

Hence the title of this post, "STILL SO VERY H-O-P-E-F-U-L"! Maybe I should've made that my sig and as for your sorors "some" are very questionable, like ive mentioned in an earlier post this is the INTERNET where people can "be" ANYTHING they want MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL....

I haven't read past this post yet so I'm assuming that at some point, someone told her to shut up. If not, I'll say it: SHUT UP!

You have absolutely no business questioning any of MY sorors. You put me in wreck mode and I don't like you.

I KNOW you didn't talk face-to-face with my soror and tell her that you WILL BE A DELTA so stop with all of this. You're lame.

[MeezDiscreet]

Originally Posted by PreciousDiva88

Please dont forget that you in fact were "hopefuls" too BEFORE you became apart of your dear sorority Maybe there are more out there who've made it but choose to be MORE involved in their community and not whats going on in GC...and please dont think that anything said on here I take to heart, whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL...

Indeed, I was. I was a "hopeful" on GC before I pledged my sorority in 2002. The sorors here can tell you that I never questioned their membership and posted recklessly because this was always a place to chat and not have my membership questions answered. I handled life as a student and aspirant offline and you should to, jerk.

I hate that whole "don't forget you once were in my shoes..." crap. Sell those wooden nickels elsewhere because there is no excuse for acting like a jerk on GC.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by MeezDiscreet

Indeed, I was. I was a "hopeful" on GC before I pledged my sorority in 2002. The sorors here can tell you that I never questioned their membership and posted recklessly because this was always a place to chat and not have my membership questions answered. I handled life as a student and aspirant offline and you should to, jerk.

I hate that whole "don't forget you once were in my shoes..." crap. Sell those wooden nickels elsewhere because there is no excuse for acting like a jerk on GC.

Yep, you embodied your user name.

[NiaX]

Originally Posted by MeezDiscreet

Indeed, I was. I was a "hopeful" on GC before I pledged my sorority in 2002. The sorors here can tell you that I never questioned their membership and posted recklessly because this was always a place to chat and not have my membership questions answered. I handled life as a student and aspirant offline and you should to, jerk.

I hate that whole "don't forget you once were in my shoes..." crap. Sell those wooden nickels elsewhere because there is no excuse for acting like a jerk on GC.

i love this Soror!*hug*

[leslietfj]

I'm not a member of this sorority, so I'm not at risk of giving away any membership secrets. My guess is although you technically COULD pledge, it probably won't happen. There's just a level of weird that the girls just wouldn't dig. Isn't this the kind of joke done in bad movies about the bad house on campus? Besides, presuming you are actually raising this child, you don't have the time to commit to a sorority. If you have friends in the chapter, hopefully you can continue attending the occasional event.

I would say you've made your lifelong commitment... to your child... and your desire to be a sorority girl unfortunately went out the window.

Best of luck to you!

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by leslietfj

I'm not a member of this sorority, so I'm not at risk of giving away any membership secrets. My guess is although you technically COULD pledge, it probably won't happen. There's just a level of weird that the girls just wouldn't dig. Isn't this the kind of joke done in bad movies about the bad house on campus? Besides, presuming you are actually raising this child, you don't have the time to commit to a sorority. If you have friends in the chapter, hopefully you can continue attending the occasional event.

I would say you've made your lifelong commitment... to your child... and your desire to be a sorority girl unfortunately went out the window.

Best of luck to you!

You should have left this to the Deltas or members of NPHC sororities to answer since they can answer from experience. There are plenty of women in our organizations with children, both on the undergrad and grad levels. Having a child in undergrad is not "weird" today like it once was many years ago and since our membership is for life and extends beyond college, many active alumnae members (who run these organizations) have children of course and are married. And yes, we do it all. We are extraordinary women. Some women can't hold down a career, household, marriage, school, and be leaders in their communities and in their organizations but we can and do just that. This is what sets us a part.

So if the poster is extraordinary (extra ordinary), she certainly could do it all if extended membership.

[DrPhil]

Another unobservant newbie.

[33girl]

I feel the same way about this thread I used to feel about Everybody Loves Raymond. This is still on?

[Spinderella]

Been away for quite a long time, living life and doing me but.....

Precious Diva 88, here is my very humble opinion. I too was a 'hopeful' and didn't make grad chapter. I am married with 2 kids. Trust when I say, the lifelong commitment of being a member should never conflict with your priority to take care of your child.

I ask you, first, who is caring for your child when you are at all these events trying to make yourself known?

Second, if you are granted this wish, who will care for your child when you are in the process?

Third, who will keep your child if you become a neophyte and are busy running around to your committee meetings and all? As an outsider looking in, a committed member COULD be out of the home in the evenings atleast 2-3 times a week before AND after becoming a member.

In the chapters in MY neck of the woods, providing childcare for members, who are working in the name of Delta, has definitely not seemed to be a priority.

If it is sisterhood you are craving, like most mommies do, reconnect with other mother-friends and make yourself content. Being away from your son during his formative years, is not worth the sacrifice. I have witnessed women who left thier kids home alone to go off and handle business for the organization, and no one ever seemed to care that these women were mothers. No one ever asked, 'Hey, I know you are single, where are the kids?' All that mattered was accomplishing the business of the chapter.

Delta will have been around for 100 years in 2013. You have made it with out the organization this long AND THEY HAVE MADE IT WITHOUT YOU; consider that you can wait until after your child is out of the house and is self sufficient.

Good Luck and be a mother first.

[ladygreek]

^^^ Interesting response. Over half of our last line (alumnae) had babies or toddlers during the process. Some were single parents. Interestingly enough they shared sitters, etc. Now they are active in the chapter and no one seems to be neglecting their children.

I have always been very active in Delta even after my daughter was born. I was single. She seems to have turned out pretty good. Oh and yeah she is now a MBA and an active Delta.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

I have always been very active in Delta even after my daughter was born. I was single. She seems to have turned out pretty good. Oh and yeah she is now a MBA and an active Delta.

Totally off topic, but that's awesome. You must be SO proud of her!

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by Spinderella

Been away for quite a long time, living life and doing me but.....

Precious Diva 88, here is my very humble opinion. I too was a 'hopeful' and didn't make grad chapter. I am married with 2 kids. Trust when I say, the lifelong commitment of being a member should never conflict with your priority to take care of your child.

I ask you, first, who is caring for your child when you are at all these events trying to make yourself known?

Second, if you are granted this wish, who will care for your child when you are in the process?

Third, who will keep your child if you become a neophyte and are busy running around to your committee meetings and all? As an outsider looking in, a committed member COULD be out of the home in the evenings atleast 2-3 times a week before AND after becoming a member.

In the chapters in MY neck of the woods, providing childcare for members, who are working in the name of Delta, has definitely not seemed to be a priority.

If it is sisterhood you are craving, like most mommies do, reconnect with other mother-friends and make yourself content. Being away from your son during his formative years, is not worth the sacrifice. I have witnessed women who left thier kids home alone to go off and handle business for the organization, and no one ever seemed to care that these women were mothers. No one ever asked, 'Hey, I know you are single, where are the kids?' All that mattered was accomplishing the business of the chapter.

Delta will have been around for 100 years in 2013. You have made it with out the organization this long AND THEY HAVE MADE IT WITHOUT YOU; consider that you can wait until after your child is out of the house and is self sufficient.

Good Luck and be a mother first.

As you said, you are on the outside looking in. Many members have children and being active in the sorority does not cause them to neglect their children. Everyone has different schedules and committments so the amount of time that can be devoted to the sorority is different for each individual. There is no set time requirement for members. If you have small children (neo or not), many would not volunteer to run around and be at events 2-3 times a week; the same is true for others that are very busy with other top priorities like starting their own business. Also, there are many ways to contribute to your chapter/sorority that will not cause you to be away from home too often; such as mailing/e-mailing letters or invites, maintaining the chapter website, working on the chapter newsletter, submitting articles to the sorority magazine, calling shut in and elderly sorors, etc. etc. etc.

Of course if you are single and don't have any children or have older children, you will be able to do more but everyone that is truly committed contributes in some way and what they are able to do varies at different times in their lives due to different life changes and events. One does not have to wait until their children are grown and out of the house to join...LOL! Don't we make time for other things, time for ourselves (which mommies definitely need), even though we have children? Working for and enjoying the sorority is fulfilling for many. Many mothers and wives cherish this time and some even consider this a part of their "me" time, which we all need. No one asks anyone to devote all or even most of their time to the sorority; that would be absurd and unrealistic for most. Those who do that are choosing to do that. If members are neglecting their children for the sorority, they should reevaluate their priorities and put them in order. It is absolutely possible to do it all and not neglect anyone or anything in your life that is important.

[jojapeach]

Originally Posted by Spinderella

I have witnessed women who left thier kids home alone to go off and handle business for the organization, and no one ever seemed to care that these women were mothers. No one ever asked, 'Hey, I know you are single, where are the kids?' All that mattered was accomplishing the business of the chapter.

Sorority business is like any other business - except it's done from the heart. When you go to your workplace, no one's going to ask you each day about your childcare because most normal people know how to handle their personal business in addition to the business at hand. The same holds true in a sorority, church auxillary, etc. Each woman knows how much of themselves they will give to their priorities, but I don't know mothers that completely abandon their children in the name of XYZ, and no one would ask that.

I 100% agree with SoRHOr rhoyaltempest above. It's all about choices and prioritizing. I've actually seen a baby or two in chapter meetings and committee meetings in the past. No one blinks an eye at a mother balancing her family and sorority.

Originally Posted by Spinderella

I ask you, first, who is caring for your child when you are at all these events trying to make yourself known?

Second, if you are granted this wish, who will care for your child when you are in the process?

Third, who will keep your child if you become a neophyte and are busy running around to your committee meetings and all? As an outsider looking in, a committed member COULD be out of the home in the evenings atleast 2-3 times a week before AND after becoming a member.

More choices. We had an interest who made herself known to sorors by attending one of our biggest programs with her daughter. It was an event especially for kids, so it was perfect. She's now a chapter officer. I believe every D9 sorority has at least one event like that. It is not impossible for a mother to manage her time properly while pursuing a sorority and then becoming involved as a member.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

^^^ Interesting response. Over half of our last line (alumnae) had babies or toddlers during the process. Some were single parents. Interestingly enough they shared sitters, etc. Now they are active in the chapter and no one seems to be neglecting their children.

We also know there are (college age and nontraditional student) undergraduate men and women with children (married and unmarried) who are initiated into NPHC orgs.

When there aren't policies prohibiting these types of things, that means it is up to the chapters and individuals involved.