STILL SO VERY HOPEFUL!

[Spinderella]

Been away for quite a long time, living life and doing me but.....

Precious Diva 88, here is my very humble opinion. I too was a 'hopeful' and didn't make grad chapter. I am married with 2 kids. Trust when I say, the lifelong commitment of being a member should never conflict with your priority to take care of your child.

I ask you, first, who is caring for your child when you are at all these events trying to make yourself known?

Second, if you are granted this wish, who will care for your child when you are in the process?

Third, who will keep your child if you become a neophyte and are busy running around to your committee meetings and all? As an outsider looking in, a committed member COULD be out of the home in the evenings atleast 2-3 times a week before AND after becoming a member.

In the chapters in MY neck of the woods, providing childcare for members, who are working in the name of Delta, has definitely not seemed to be a priority.

If it is sisterhood you are craving, like most mommies do, reconnect with other mother-friends and make yourself content. Being away from your son during his formative years, is not worth the sacrifice. I have witnessed women who left thier kids home alone to go off and handle business for the organization, and no one ever seemed to care that these women were mothers. No one ever asked, 'Hey, I know you are single, where are the kids?' All that mattered was accomplishing the business of the chapter.

Delta will have been around for 100 years in 2013. You have made it with out the organization this long AND THEY HAVE MADE IT WITHOUT YOU; consider that you can wait until after your child is out of the house and is self sufficient.

Good Luck and be a mother first.