I think I regret the Sorority I chose...

[ISUKappa]

Define "happier". Would you be more active? Have more friends? Feel like you could be yourself vs. someone's younger sister? Happier is kind of a vague term for something you've barely just begun to be a part of.

I pledged my legacy chapter. My sister had just graduated so, even though she was no longer in the house, everyone knew her. While we have somewhat similar tastes, we have completely different personalities. People were so used to what she was like that I think it was kind of a shock when I turned out to be so different.

There were many, many times that first semester (and even beyond then) where I wondered if I'd made the right choice, if I really fit in, if they wanted me for *me* or just because I was a legacy. It was difficult sometimes, but I made a choice to be a part of this organization and I was going to make the most of it.

I got involved right away with helping out with things - Derby Days, Homecoming, etc... I got to know older members as well as the girls in my pledge class (even though I didn't always get along with all of them). I went to the chapter house as often as I could.

I was never BFF with everyone in my chapter (no one ever is). I had a few really close friends who were all in different grades and then was "good" friends with a bunch of other girls. I also had good friends in different chapters on campus.

Now, 10 years out, I am extremely happy with my sorority. I do sometimes look back and wish I could have done some things differently (doesn't everyone?) but the alumna experience has been 100x more fulfilling for me.

Stick it out for a little bit longer. Go through the New Member period. If you still don't feel "happy" when initiation rolls around, then consider resigning at that time. But be aware that depending on your campus, this may be your only shot at being in a sorority. If it's something that's important to you, you may just need to change your view. Find an older member (not one of your sisters if they're still in the chapter) to talk to. Chances are you aren't the only one who ever felt that way.