In-law venting thread

[APhi Sailorgirl]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

APhi Sailorgirl it sounds like your in-laws are pieces of work. Good luck to you. It makes my situation seem a little less dire right now.

Yeah, DH and I will have been married a year in October and seriously none of this stuff happened until we got engaged and we dated a year before that happened.

This is awful, but I'm so ready for my parents to retire and move down by us, which is their plan. It will be so nice to show all of DH's family that is what a nice, loving, caring family looks like. Although MIL does like her other DIL, so it could just be me.

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by APhi Sailorgirl

This is awful, but I'm so ready for my parents to retire and move down by us, which is their plan. It will be so nice to show all of DH's family that is what a nice, loving, caring family looks like. Although MIL does like her other DIL, so it could just be me.

The Boyfriend's parents might come out this December and I'm thinking that it will be interesting to see them meet my parents. They are polar opposites and have nothing in common except that both sets of parents love the boyfriend. The jury is still out on whether or not the ILs like me. I would say they don't, but the boyfriend says they do.

Let's see both sets of parents are near each other in age, except, mine had retirement plans and are retired. His are still paying off their house 23 years later with no plans of retirement even though they are going into their 60s and having to ask their son to help them with payments. My parents have a clean, fairly uncluttered house even though they have 2.5 other people living there (brother is currently moving out) and a dog. In-laws have three people other than themselves living there, but i can almost assure you it has been years since that carpet was vacuumed (not even going into all the other cleaning things... when I leave the house I practically bleach myself). My parents are open to every type of belief (religious and political not like oh its okay to kill people belief) while the in laws are very vocal and judgmental. I can assure you they will not be happy with the wedding if the boyfriend and I get married since it won't be as religious as they want it. My parents want us to wait to get married and to have me get my education before we do anything. His parents don't understand why I'm going to school, why I want to work, why we aren't married and why we are hesitant on having kids (ever).
I know my family isn't perfect and I have complained about them countless times, however, his family terrifies me.

Somewhere in my mind, I know that when you get married you marry the family as well, but I keep hoping it isn't true... Maybe if we live in Russia, they won't follow us.

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by APhi Sailorgirl

Yeah, DH and I will have been married a year in October and seriously none of this stuff happened until we got engaged and we dated a year before that happened.

This is awful, but I'm so ready for my parents to retire and move down by us, which is their plan. It will be so nice to show all of DH's family that is what a nice, loving, caring family looks like. Although MIL does like her other DIL, so it could just be me.

It might be you...don't you know, you're not good enough for her baby boy? Here's an article to help you be a better DIL http://psychology.suite101.com/artic...ghterinlaw_101 There's one for mother in laws too. I was >this< close to sending it to mine, but then I figured it would start a sh*t storm in which I would be in the center. Apparently most mother in laws have not heard the saying, "A son is a son until he takes a wife, a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life." Heck if we want to go biblical, it says something about cleaving from your family too... Ahh here it is: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." Genesis 2:24


That's funny...my MIL was bitchier before I was the fiancee, but then got nice, and then turned bitchy again right before the wedding, and it's been crap for the last 4 years.

And WC, remember...you marry the in-laws too, it's totally true. Doesn't matter where you live, they can still be a pain in the ass.

ETA: About the quote about sons and daughters, not saying that all girls care about their families, I'm saying a son's priority towards his parents changes when he gets married, or at least I think it should.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Unmarried ladies, a warning: You really DO marry the family as well as the man. No, you don't believe it, but it's true!

This. Some people say, "It doesn't matter what his parents are like because I'm not marrying them." Oh in some ways, you are.

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Guess what? Three years after breaking off the plans, Ex-FH lives in the same Midwestern town as the parents, and he's taking care of them. THAT COULD HAVE BEEN MY LIFE, PEOPLE!

That's a pretty scary thought. I bet you're glad that didn't end up happening.

PS. This thread makes me a little scared to get married, lol.