Is she pregnant?

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Yes. Now he needs to leave GC out of the equation. He has posted enough about this.

I'll agree that it's time for him to leave GC out of the equation, but not necessarily for the same reason as you. He's going to continue to get "lessons" from people who have no idea what it's like to be in his shoes. He's getting bombarded by negativity at a time in his life when what he needs most is support. He needs to leave the judgmental GC to find people who will understand that he made a mistake, that he's owned that mistake, and is trying to find a way to come to terms with it.

Xanthus, seriously, good luck with everything. Being a parent is a hard and thankless job (well, it's thankless in the beginning anyway), and there will definitely be days that will try your every last nerve. But, it's also a very rewarding job, and one that, even on its worst days, has excellent benefits. I hope you and mom-to-be can, at the very least, work things out so that you're civil with each other. I'm not sure what your next step is regarding a relationship with her, but even if you're not together, you'll need to be able to communicate well and work together for the baby's benefit.

[DrPhil]

Actually, when I say he should stop posting, it is for two reasons:

1) We didn't need to know in the first place because...we just didn't...and he could've figured this out without GC.

and

2) When you invite people into your life, on the internet and in real life, you are opening yourself up to informed, uninformed, good, and bad responses. There's no screening process. People, particularly strangers and usernames, aren't obligated to be positive and supportive.