Bf from dead chapter

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by 33girl

First off, no matter what he says, don't refer to it as a "dead chapter" - eek!! A better euphemism is closed or dormant.

Or inactive. (And I wouldn't call those "euphemisms." Those are usually the proper terms.)

And also, don't say he "was" a Greek in college or "was" in a large national fraternity. He is still in that fraternity (unless he was expelled when his chapter's charter was pulled). Perhaps he needs to be reminded of that, and reminded that as an alumnus, his fraternity experience can extend far beyond his chapter.

Otherwise, co-sign 33girl.

[DLanoliN]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Or inactive. (And I wouldn't call those "euphemisms." Those are usually the proper terms.)

And also, don't say he "was" a Greek in college or "was" in a large national fraternity. He is still in that fraternity (unless he was expelled when his chapter's charter was pulled). Perhaps he needs to be reminded of that, and reminded that as an alumnus, his fraternity experience can extend far beyond his chapter.

Otherwise, co-sign 33girl.

Ohhh you're very right. I think it is so harsh that he constantly uses words like "dead", "gone", and "over". It does bother me. I'm sorry to use the term myself. Most of the Greeks where I'm from are local. So if something happens to end their chapter at our school, the chapter is literally dead, it's the lingo we use there.
He was not expelled. The incident did not involve him, and he was shocked by it. I think once he gets over the bitterness he'll reunite and get involved with some of his brothers somehow.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DLanoliN

Ohhh you're very right. I think it is so harsh that he constantly uses words like "dead", "gone", and "over". It does bother me.

He was not expelled. The incident did not involve him, and he was shocked by it. I think once he gets over the bitterness he'll reunite and get involved with some of his brothers somehow.

I think that's a guy thing. He's venting. It's all the more upsetting when it wasn't a simple chapter vs nationals thing, but members did things that their own chapter brothers found beyond the pale. He's also probably wrestling with things like "damn, I voted those noodleheads in." You beat yourself up in a million ways when it happens - in that sense, it really is like a death.