Bf from dead chapter

[33girl]

First off, no matter what he says, don't refer to it as a "dead chapter" - eek!! A better euphemism is closed or dormant.

Try bringing him to some smaller functions with your friends to get to know them (and their guys) before even contemplating a giant all Greek function. If he attends anything at your school, he's going to have culture shock in a MAJOR way and that would be true even if his chapter was still open. He should at least get to know some of the people who will be there.

If those go well, ask him if he wants to come to the event, but don't put pressure on him at all and don't be upset or offended if he just doesn't want to come. We're having a similar event at Homecoming and for most of the men attending, their chapters are closed. I know that for many of the people there, although our friendships are good and strong, it's going to be bittersweet to be back there and seeing each other, without things in the Greek system like they used to be. If he has to be at something like that without his brothers, it might really suck for him. Or he might be totally ok with it. Honestly, different people have different reactions.