Married & rushing?

[kddani]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

While KSUviolet had events every night some weeks, we didn't. Yes, we had social events, and yes, we had meetings for new members, but never in one week were we doing things with the sorority every night. And with the alcohol/mixers situation.. the mixers at my school never got as crazy as others. Yes, there was drinking, but it wasn't to the extent that I've seen at mixers at other schools. Every chapter/school is different. We don't know where you go to school or how prominent Greek life actually is there. In my opinion, you should do all you can to find out how much will really be involved with this whole endeavor, how much time you're willing to put into it, and whether or not it will create issues between you and your husband.

Your school sounds more like the exception than the rule.

As has been said, even if you don't have something formally scheduled every night, you and your sisters are going to want to be hanging out with the chapter- as many of us have been said, this was the best part and the part that made us grow closer.

Is your husband going to be okay with you being gone every night and sometimes the entire weekend? If so, that's an interesting marriage. Actually, that doesn't leave a whole lot left to consider as a marriage.

[HeavenslilAngel]

I agree with all previous posts that a college sorority is a wonderful experience but very time consuming. There are other sororities that give the same experience (friends, philanthropy, socials etc) that are less time consuming. Beta Sigma Phi is one. I'm a member and love it. We have a meeting once a month, social once a month and a philanthropic event or project once a month. I'm the youngest in my chapter and my BSP sisters come from all walks of life (single never married, married, divorced, kids, no kids) http://www.betasigmaphi.org/contacts.php is the contact link. Call them, email them etc.

[budger1984]

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[budger1984]

Originally Posted by kddani

Your school sounds more like the exception than the rule.

As has been said, even if you don't have something formally scheduled every night, you and your sisters are going to want to be hanging out with the chapter- as many of us have been said, this was the best part and the part that made us grow closer.

Is your husband going to be okay with you being gone every night and sometimes the entire weekend? If so, that's an interesting marriage. Actually, that doesn't leave a whole lot left to consider as a marriage.

I'm pretty sure that my marriage is fine. With all due respect, I don't think you should make commentary on my marriage considering you aren't here. My husband and I support each other 100%. While I appreciate you telling me the pros and cons of a sorority, I don't appreciate you telling me that if I join, it means I don't have much of a marriage.

[minDyG]

Originally Posted by kddani

Your school sounds more like the exception than the rule.

As has been said, even if you don't have something formally scheduled every night, you and your sisters are going to want to be hanging out with the chapter- as many of us have been said, this was the best part and the part that made us grow closer.

Is your husband going to be okay with you being gone every night and sometimes the entire weekend? If so, that's an interesting marriage. Actually, that doesn't leave a whole lot left to consider as a marriage.

You don't know her situation. What if her husband works nights? People schedules don't always coincide, but that doesn't mean their marriage is anything to look your nose down at. As to being gone for a weekend a few times a semester, any solid marriage takes into consideration that it is comprised of two individuals who sometimes need a break from each other anyway--so that shouldn't be anything to worry over.