Barbie’s Guide to Writing an Honest Real Time Recruitment Story without Sabotaging Yo

[DGTess]

Remember also -- not all sorority women will stalk you on line.

Not all will go seeking out information you don't volunteer.

Some will recognize you change things to avoid being detected, and that is not a challenge to test others' google-fu.

Some will realize that you may not know all the unwritten "rules" of greekchat.


It is not smart to state on Day 1 that you wouldn't consider a bid from XYZ if they were the last organization on the planet. Or that the girls could only ask about egg foo yung once they saw you were Asian.

Those who would "out" you against your will are those who give sorority selection processes a bad name.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by DGTess

Remember also -- not all sorority women will stalk you on line.

Not all will go seeking out information you don't volunteer.

Some will recognize you change things to avoid being detected, and that is not a challenge to test others' google-fu.

Some will realize that you may not know all the unwritten "rules" of greekchat.

Those who would "out" you against your will are those who give sorority selection processes a bad name.

Oh but some folks are like that. It's no fun, but it's reality.

To be honest: You are making your recruitment public info. No one is seeking it out.

99% of the people here are not people who seek out stuff. Most of us only figure things out based on what the PNMs put out there.

Also, people forget that ANYONE can read stuff they post here.

Half of the time, if a PNMs thread negatively affects her recruitment, it's because a sorority member from HER SCHOOL saw it. Alot of times, they don't even POST here, but they happened to read it.

[LadyLonghorn]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Oh but some folks are like that. It's no fun, but it's reality.

To be honest: You are making your recruitment public info. No one is seeking it out.

99% of the people here are not people who seek out stuff. Most of us only figure things out based on what the PNMs put out there.

Also, people forget that ANYONE can read stuff they post here.

Half of the time, if a PNMs thread negatively affects her recruitment, it's because a sorority member from HER SCHOOL saw it. Alot of times, they don't even POST here, but they happened to read it.

True. Some situations have been caused by batshit crazy stalkers, but I can think of several where the PNM totally deserved what was coming because of the way she acted here or talked about certain groups during recruitment. No 'unwritten rules of greekchat' needed, just meanness, rudeness and stupidity that would be recognized as such anywhere.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

No 'unwritten rules of greekchat' needed, just meanness, rudeness and stupidity that would be recognized as such anywhere.

Right.

I mean, if you were ACTUALLY AT recruitment and saying rude, mean or stupid things in REAL life, and someone HEARD you, it would likely negatively affect you.

Same tends to be true for the interwebz. If you're being rude, mean, or stupid, in your recruitment story and someone sees it, it's going to affect you.

It's common sense.

And for the PNMs reading:

Honesty and being rude/dumb are TWO DIFFERENT THINGS.

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Oh but some folks are like that. It's no fun, but it's reality.

To be honest: You are making your recruitment public info. No one is seeking it out.

99% of the people here are not people who seek out stuff. Most of us only figure things out based on what the PNMs put out there.

Also, people forget that ANYONE can read stuff they post here.

Half of the time, if a PNMs thread negatively affects her recruitment, it's because a sorority member from HER SCHOOL saw it. Alot of times, they don't even POST here, but they happened to read it.

Exactly! There are GC members and tons of lurkers who are active alums or collegians in the Chapters. I personally know at least a half dozen locally active alums who regularly lurk here, especially reading Recruitment related threads at this time of year.

Any time my school/Chapter is mentioned, my ears perk up. No, I'm not stalking. Rather it's a simple case of: my curiosity + my responsibility = I'm going to check out other posts by this person. If you (the PNM) put info out there for the world to see, then you shouldn't be surprised when someone actually does see it.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by DGTess

Remember also -- not all sorority women will stalk you on line.

Not all will go seeking out information you don't volunteer.

Some will recognize you change things to avoid being detected, and that is not a challenge to test others' google-fu.

Some will realize that you may not know all the unwritten "rules" of greekchat.


It is not smart to state on Day 1 that you wouldn't consider a bid from XYZ if they were the last organization on the planet. Or that the girls could only ask about egg foo yung once they saw you were Asian.

Those who would "out" you against your will are those who give sorority selection processes a bad name.

Exactly, but you should write your story as though all of them will!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Exactly, but you should write your story as though all of them will!

True. And as I've said before - very few people on GC who say "I know the school" are going to do a damn thing about it, or are saying it to be malicious or mean. They're just so happy they got it. Most of the real messes that happened with PNMs losing bids or having bad rushes were because a non-GCer at the PNM's school saw the posts, figured out it was their school and went back to their sisters. I can't think of any time where a GCer did something like calling up a chapter (which is basically what's being implied).

So rushees, if you get a PM from a GCer or see posts on here saying you're being indiscreet - don't get pissed. It is the equivalent of a mom yanking her child's arm off to get him out of the way of a car.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by 33girl

So rushees, if you get a PM from a GCer or see posts on here saying you're being indiscreet - don't get pissed. It is the equivalent of a mom yanking her child's arm off to get him out of the way of a car.

Exactly.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Most of the real messes that happened with PNMs losing bids or having bad rushes were because a non-GCer at the PNM's school saw the posts, figured out it was their school and went back to their sisters.

EXACTLY.

It's not GCers that you need to be concerned about.

It's random sophomore Katie Kappa from Your University who lurks here and happens to notice that you said something like:

"Today I visited Apple, and I was seriously like OMG at their ugly owls and blue stuff in their house. They wore these ugly blue flip flops, and every girl in their chapter is *gasp* a size 6 or above! Gross!"

Katie Kappa is not an idiot, and she knows that it's HER house you're talking about (owls and blue? duh!). She is offended by your comment and plans on making DOUBLE sure you don't get invited back there.

Random GC Kappa may post that she is offended, but likely not going to do a darn thing.

[KSUViolet06]

Another thing:

It's cool to be honest.

It's also not cool to say that you're being "brutally honest" and use it as an excuse to bash chapters because you feel like it.

If you want to know what ACTUAL honesty is, read 20something's or curlygirly's threads.

These women are not only being honest about their opinions of chapters but also about THEIR OWN shortcomings/bad ideas/no-no's during the process.

If you're starting a thread just so you can say "Oh I hate XYZ they're all fat. Next!" you'll most likely open yourself up to quite a bit of scrutiny around here.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I can't think of any time where a GCer did something like calling up a chapter (which is basically what's being implied).

I know of at least 7 and I'm sure there were more. Y'all be careful.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by carnation

I know of at least 7 and I'm sure there were more. Y'all be careful.

Actual logged in, you know their SN, GCers or the non-registered lurkers 33girl specifically mentioned in her previous paragraph?

[carnation]

The 7 I'm speaking of were real live, screen-named GCers. A couple are still active here and PNMs, it's just not worth it to mess up your recruitment even though live threads are fun to make and read.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by carnation

The 7 I'm speaking of were real live, screen-named GCers. A couple are still active here and PNMs, it's just not worth it to mess up your recruitment even though live threads are fun to make and read.

Let me rephrase that.

"I can't think of any time in the past 2 years (or since we started shunning those who shameless plug) where an ACTIVE, NON-NOOB GCer called up a chapter."

Active as in, posting on a regular basis. Again, I'm sure those who I'm talking about are still lurking though and undoubtedly still doing isht like this. But you could just as easily include them in the non-GCers camp. It's the same concept.