The Single's Bucket List

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

The Weekly or Monthly (it depends) Marriage Commandments:

Couples shalt do childless dates.

Couples shalt do childless gatherings with other couples.

Couples shalt do childless and spouseless gatherings with childless and spouseless friends.

So let it be written. So let it be done.

My parents and both sets of grandparents have over 150 years of marriage between them; they definitely followed these rules.


Yeah, I have a co-worker whose life revolves around her baby daughter. She has never spent a night away from the little girl and will admit that another kid won't happen for obvious reasons (if you know what I mean). People have to make the relationship a priority even when the kid is born and awesome. It's a little sad, but that's the way she likes to roll now.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Yeah, I have a co-worker whose life revolves around her baby daughter. She has never spent a night away from the little girl and will admit that another kid won't happen for obvious reasons (if you know what I mean). People have to make the relationship a priority even when the kid is born and awesome. It's a little sad, but that's the way she likes to roll now.

That's unfortunate.

My grandma has always told me that you should never stop "dating your spouse." Meaning that you shouldn't ever become just "mom and dad" and forget that you're husband and wife first.

Something I think people fail to consider is that some day, the kids will move out. Then what will your life revolve around?

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

That's unfortunate.

My grandma has always told me that you should never stop "dating your spouse." Meaning that you shouldn't ever become just "mom and dad" and forget that you're husband and wife first.

Something I think people fail to consider is that some day, the kids will move out. Then what will your life revolve around?

Can we put that on a poster or cards for people who have kids? Seriously...it's only a benefit to the kids if the parents are still crazy for one another.

I agree with everything that's been said...marriage isn't limiting, to me it's almost freeing, because (hypothetically) you have someone who will support your crazy bucket list type ideas.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

Can we put that on a poster or cards for people who have kids? Seriously...it's only a benefit to the kids if the parents are still crazy for one another.

I agree with everything that's been said...marriage isn't limiting, to me it's almost freeing, because (hypothetically) you have someone who will support your crazy bucket list type ideas.

Agree re: spousal support. Say I become a world famous arctic archaeologist and only go on digs in the summer, it is great to have someone at home who can handle day to day stuff while I play Indiana Jones. I also believe in some quid pro quo, that if my spouse and his best friend have a goal of climbing certain peaks in North America, that they can go off and do that and in return I can take off with my best friend or sister for the Sock Knitting Summit or because I want to go to Dollywood for Dolly's birthday. I see it as allowing your spouse to be a whole person, even when it doesn't include you.