The Single's Bucket List

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

This can also happen when you're married and it can also NOT happen if you're single, depending on your circumstances.

I think a lot of this has to do with what people have going on in their lives and is not about being single versus married.

Yeah, I guess I was just thinking about the things that were easier for me to do when I was single, compared to when I was living with ex-boy; I was also thinking about where my friends and I are in our lives. No one has room for more than one couch-crashing guest.

I have noticed that now that the kids are gone and retirement is the reality, my parents do all sorts of crazy stuff that's not too dissimilar from what I was doing a few years ago! Money + no obligations = party time, apparently.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Yeah, I guess I was just thinking about the things that were easier for me to do when I was single, compared to when I was living with ex-boy; I was also thinking about where my friends and I are in our lives. No one has room for more than one couch-crashing guest.

Ahhh...therein lies the rub. Almost all of our friends have houses with guest bedrooms. No need to literally crash a couch. You figuratively crash it.

On roadtrips where we stay in hotels without significant others, everyone stays in the same room. Queen beds, pull-out couches, cots, etc.

This won't be a weekly thing nor will people always have the time, energy, and interest in doing these things. But, they aren't impossible to do when you're not single. They are just reserved for homecomings, holiday gatherings, and annual chapter reunions.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

This won't be a weekly thing nor will people always have the time, energy, and interest in doing these things. But, they aren't impossible to do when you're not single. They are just reserved for homecomings, holiday gatherings, and annual chapter reunions.

Yeah, my mother does this with "the gals" from time to time. So cute!

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Yeah, my mother does this with "the gals" from time to time. So cute!

The Weekly or Monthly (it depends) Marriage Commandments:

Couples shalt do childless dates.

Couples shalt do childless gatherings with other couples.

Couples shalt do childless and spouseless gatherings with childless and spouseless friends.

So let it be written. So let it be done.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

The Weekly or Monthly (it depends) Marriage Commandments:

Couples shalt do childless dates.

Couples shalt do childless gatherings with other couples.

Couples shalt do childless and spouseless gatherings with childless and spouseless friends.

So let it be written. So let it be done.

Amen and Amen.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

The Weekly or Monthly (it depends) Marriage Commandments:

Couples shalt do childless dates.

Couples shalt do childless gatherings with other couples.

Couples shalt do childless and spouseless gatherings with childless and spouseless friends.

So let it be written. So let it be done.

Let the church say amen.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

The Weekly or Monthly (it depends) Marriage Commandments:

Couples shalt do childless dates.

Couples shalt do childless gatherings with other couples.

Couples shalt do childless and spouseless gatherings with childless and spouseless friends.

So let it be written. So let it be done.

My parents and both sets of grandparents have over 150 years of marriage between them; they definitely followed these rules.


Yeah, I have a co-worker whose life revolves around her baby daughter. She has never spent a night away from the little girl and will admit that another kid won't happen for obvious reasons (if you know what I mean). People have to make the relationship a priority even when the kid is born and awesome. It's a little sad, but that's the way she likes to roll now.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Yeah, I have a co-worker whose life revolves around her baby daughter. She has never spent a night away from the little girl and will admit that another kid won't happen for obvious reasons (if you know what I mean). People have to make the relationship a priority even when the kid is born and awesome. It's a little sad, but that's the way she likes to roll now.

That's unfortunate.

My grandma has always told me that you should never stop "dating your spouse." Meaning that you shouldn't ever become just "mom and dad" and forget that you're husband and wife first.

Something I think people fail to consider is that some day, the kids will move out. Then what will your life revolve around?

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

That's unfortunate.

My grandma has always told me that you should never stop "dating your spouse." Meaning that you shouldn't ever become just "mom and dad" and forget that you're husband and wife first.

Something I think people fail to consider is that some day, the kids will move out. Then what will your life revolve around?

Can we put that on a poster or cards for people who have kids? Seriously...it's only a benefit to the kids if the parents are still crazy for one another.

I agree with everything that's been said...marriage isn't limiting, to me it's almost freeing, because (hypothetically) you have someone who will support your crazy bucket list type ideas.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

The Weekly or Monthly (it depends) Marriage Commandments:

Couples shalt do childless and spouseless gatherings with childless and spouseless friends.

Amen - lose the spouse when you come to see me, because I'm not going to dish on anything when your husband is around.

[KSigkid]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Yeah, I guess I was just thinking about the things that were easier for me to do when I was single, compared to when I was living with ex-boy; I was also thinking about where my friends and I are in our lives. No one has room for more than one couch-crashing guest.

I have noticed that now that the kids are gone and retirement is the reality, my parents do all sorts of crazy stuff that's not too dissimilar from what I was doing a few years ago! Money + no obligations = party time, apparently.

That's the thing - when I think of the "limiting factors," so to speak, in my life, the first things that come to mind are law school and work. Maybe I'm looking at things the wrong way, but I can't think of a way in which I've been limited by my marriage.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by KSigkid

That's the thing - when I think of the "limiting factors," so to speak, in my life, the first things that come to mind are law school and work. Maybe I'm looking at things the wrong way, but I can't think of a way in which I've been limited by my marriage.

I mean, you're limited in the sense that it's generally frowned upon to grab a hot tub full of hookers in Vegas once you're married - but certainly you can probably live that dream if you're so inclined. It's just a matter of division of assets at that point.

The term "bucket list" makes me want to put a bucket onto my head and bang it repeatedly with a hammer - but the thought of 'limiting' myself in any way based on something as simple and as temporal as "life situation" kind of sucks (barring kid situations, which are more give-and-take than anything). Maybe I'm a bit capricious, but if I want to do something, I usually just do it - whether that's skydiving, bar rats, travel, cardio kickboxing or eating an entire cheese pizza, just for me.

On the other hand, I would actually laugh if a woman said to me, "before we get married, I have all of these things I want to do, so I'd better get cracking!" Yep, looks like you better, Ms. I Need Life Milemarkers To Fill In An Imaginary List. I'll grab a drink.

[AlphaXi_Husky]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

Maybe I'm a bit capricious, but if I want to do something, I usually just do it - whether that's skydiving, bar rats, travel, cardio kickboxing or eating an entire cheese pizza, just for me.

HA! "keep the change, ya filthy animal"

That's it. I don't have really anything else to add.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by AlphaXi_Husky

HA! "keep the change, ya filthy animal"

"Get down on your knees and tell me you love me."