A recruitment story with a bittersweet ending.

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by alexa6789

One day I was walking through campus and happened to see one of the girls I really clicked with at Pink. She pulled me aside and told me she was considering dropping Pink, and proceeded to tell me what happened on pref night. After all was said and done, the actives at Pink met to discuss and privately vote on the girls they thought were Pink material. Before they voted, the girls discussed each PNM's strengths and weaknesses. There was a girl I went to high school with who was an upperclassman in Pink. I hadn't thought much about the fact that we didnt like each other in high school, and I figured that was long ago anyway that it wouldnt matter. Appearantly this girl told the other actives ugly lies about me and said she wouldn't tolerate it if I was in the house. of course the actives would listen to their sister and believe her, especially since they dont really know me.

This didnt surprise me much, the possibility entered my mind. I will never know if this is really true, but based on the things she said it sounds plausible. It made me feel a lot better knowing it wasn't my fault, it wasnt me or my personality, and it could have just been some silly high school dispute.

I understand that you appreciate knowing what may have occurred. Just keep in mind that there is no way for you to know if this is the truth, especially considering the source. This person is considering resigning, therefore must be unhappy with her org/sisters and obviously has no qualms about violating the confidentiality of the organization she pledged herself to for life.

Regardless of whether she told you the truth, a fabrication, or embellished, it sounds like she is purposely trying to create drama for that chapter on campus -- a parting shot if you will. Being unhappy is no excuse. She has no sense of loyalty, committment, or honor. The organization and her sisters are entitled to her loyalty and in this case her continued confidentiality even if she does resign. If she doesn't, I hope her org takes action through their standards process.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Zillini

I understand that you appreciate knowing what may have occurred. Just keep in mind that there is no way for you to know if this is the truth, especially considering the source. This person is considering resigning, therefore must be unhappy with her org/sisters and obviously has no qualms about violating the confidentiality of the organization she pledged herself to for life.

Regardless of whether she told you the truth, a fabrication, or embellished, it sounds like she is purposely trying to create drama for that chapter on campus -- a parting shot if you will. Being unhappy is no excuse. She has no sense of loyalty, committment, or honor. The organization and her sisters are entitled to her loyalty and in this case her continued confidentiality even if she does resign. If she doesn't, I hope her org takes action through their standards process.

You know, I agree with all of this, but I can't help but wonder how true the story is. Do you think a sister who really didn't want a PNM in her chapter would wait until after pref to try and get rid of the PNM? That would seem like the worst time since no matter how low on the list that PNM goes, there is still a chance that she will get a bid since she will be on the bid list. It may make this PNM feel better about the way things turned out, but I'm not buying it!