Do Sororities Really Want You To Try Again?

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by jennyj87

My personal suggestion is that you do rush again. The hardest part about the way sororites recruit is taht you only meet certain people sometimes. I know its the whole "trust your sisters" an all that jazz, but you just never know.
We had 2 girls come in to our chapter this year that had rushed before. I knew both of them, one I wrote a rec for. The girl I wrote a rec for can be very shy at times but I knew her so I brought the rec to the chapter, and I cannot tell you how happy I was when she attacked me at bid day! She even ended up being my twin!
The other girl that rushed again had recieved a bid from another sorority, but dropped before initiation. She's doing fabulous in ours now

Try again. You never know.

Gotta love those girls who would cheer you on as you follow their advice and smack yourself into a brick wall.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Gotta love those girls who would cheer you on as you follow their advice and smack yourself into a brick wall.

I tell the girls who re-rush that if they feel like they JUST HAVE to do it just so they don't wonder "What if" to try again by all means, but just don't be surprised if you don't get a bid because for the most part, re-rushing doesn't make your chances better the second time.

[jennyj87]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Gotta love those girls who would cheer you on as you follow their advice and smack yourself into a brick wall.

Ouch that burned.
Sorry, I don't go to a school where recruitment is as competitive as others...?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by jennyj87

Ouch that burned.
Sorry, I don't go to a school where recruitment is as competitive as others...?

You most likely don't.

To be honest, at a lot of schools, your chances do not get better if you rush a second time. So if you don't get a bid the first time, you likely will not get a bid the second time around either.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

You most likely don't.

To be honest, at a lot of schools, your chances do not get better if you rush a second time. So if you don't get a bid the first time, you likely will not get a bid the second time around either.

Yeah, but the OP got a bid, just not one she wanted at the time.

I agree that it's pretty rare in a competitive recruitment that a PNM's chances go up with a re-rush, but sometimes the PNM, because she's more realistic about her likely outcome, can still salvage a bid she wants. Sometimes they even reconsider the groups they weren't interested in the 1st time.

And as far as the spring rush, if we're talking two person new member classes, it's possible that she was on some of the groups' lists in a spot other than top two. Personally, I don't equate not ending up with a bid on the final day with being cut. The group may have wanted you, just not quite enough.

I agree with the earlier advice that if you can handle not matching, there's no problem with going through again. What do you have to lose really? But after that, if it doesn't work out, you need to stop.

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Yeah, but the OP got a bid, just not one she wanted at the time.

I agree that it's pretty rare in a competitive recruitment that a PNM's chances go up with a re-rush, but sometimes the PNM, because she's more realistic about her likely outcome, can still salvage a bid she wants. Sometimes they even reconsider the groups they weren't interested in the 1st time.

And as far as the spring rush, if we're talking two person new member classes, it's possible that she was on some of the groups' lists in a spot other than top two. Personally, I don't equate not ending up with a bid on the final day with being cut. The group may have wanted you, just not quite enough.

I agree with the earlier advice that if you can handle not matching, there's no problem with going through again. What do you have to lose really? But after that, if it doesn't work out, you need to stop.

That's the whole point -- she got a bid already. She just wasn't happy with it. Her friend (An officer in another group on campus) has told her girls who re-rush look desperate...) Advice from her FRIEND seems to be to leave it alone.

But, if she can handle possibly not getting a bid at all this time, even from the one she's already been offered? By all means, consider it.

I don't want this girl thinking her chances aren't are higher than they probably are. I went to both Ole Miss (super competitive) and MTSU (not super competitive) and have seen it from both sides. Neither campus looked well upon those offered and rejecting bids only to re-rush. Add to this the fact this child is an upperclassman, and we should temper our advice to the likely reality.

Then, if the girl gets cut, at least someone has told her the worst-case scenario... And, if she gets a bid, she feels all the more GRATEFUL for being even offered a bid.