I just need to vent. What a MISTAKE!!!

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by humblerumble

I appreciate all of the advice. I'm just curious as to why you've all assumed this is a NPHC organization?

Because NPC orgs don't say "Soror" and it just doesn't sound likely that it's a Multicultural or NALFO org.

Plus, because you said "induction" and not "initiation" I can almost guarantee that I know which sorority it is.

[MexicanMami0286]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Plus, because you said "induction" and not "initiation" I can almost guarantee that I know which sorority it is.

Ditto...

[humblerumble]

could someone tell me what QFP means? Forgive me. I'm not hip to the lingo on this site
Thanks.
Also, out of respect for the org itself, all I can do is allow others to assume they know which one it is. I won't mention the name of the group, it's NPC/NPHC or NON NPHC/NPC afilliation, etc. I mean, I feel what I feel, and I appreciate all of your advice. I thank you all for not giving me a hard time about this rant. I just really needed a place and space to speak my mind freely and get this off of my chest. It's a pretty heavy load to carry....

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by humblerumble

could someone tell me what QFP means? Forgive me. I'm not hip to the lingo on this site
Thanks.

Quoted For Posterity

[MexicanMami0286]

Just wow at this post...

I'm glad someone QFP'ed this.

I think it's easy to assume it's an NPHC organizations from mentioning things like "soror" and "handsign," though we all could attest that it could be a non-NPHC GLO...

In any case, it's up to you to take the initiative to make certain things happen. Just because you see others in different organizations with a "leg up" on opportunities, doesn't mean they simply got this from their membership with a certain org. I'm sure these women are qualified, despite their membership privileges and have taken it upon themselves to initiate contact with others and create the opportunities they want to see/partake in, whether it's in their careers or communities.

Perhaps, you should consider joining another chapter. If you're in a metro area, you may have several to choose from or you could consider simply participating as a member-at-large and continue the work of your organization that way (or continue participating in the service you've been doing with other organizations).

And as others have posted, perhaps, you should just quit the organization and find a "better" use of your time.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by agzg

I find it hard to believe that every member of a large national organization is unkempt or dirty. Especially since (I'm assuming, here) it's an NPHC organization. I also find it hard to believe that a large national organization is not allowing you networking opportunities. Perhaps you should take the initiative and put yourself in contact with area alumnae.

Originally Posted by MexicanMami0286

In any case, it's up to you to take the initiative to make certain things happen. Just because you see others in different organizations with a "leg up" on opportunities, doesn't mean they simply got this from their membership with a certain org. I'm sure these women are qualified, despite their membership privileges and have taken it upon themselves to initiate contact with others and create the opportunities they want to see/partake in, whether it's in their careers or communities.

Listen to this advice. You can't rely on other people to put things in front of you, even when it's a national organization you're looking to for help. You have to do the research yourself. Especially when it comes to networking opportunities. I think the main idea behind it is that you "know" people around the country simply because you're all XYZs. But you actually have to seek them out and ask for help. I know of one sister who became friends with as many alumnae as possible through Facebook, and ended up talking to one of them who got her a job after she graduated.

The same goes for the chapter. If you want to see change, create it. Even if it's small change. Take on leadership roles. Recruitment or New Member Director (or whatever they're called in your org) might be good ones to strive for.

And I have to ask... how long have you been a member? Did you just join this semester? Because if so, remember that there will be many people who come after you. Maybe the chapter will gain some different new members and completely turn around come fall.

But if this is the case, and you did just join, and after another semester or two you are still completely unhappy, then consider dropping and becoming involved in something that you'll enjoy.

[SydneyK]

While it isn't that much of an indicator anymore, the mention of handsigns was another clue for me. (Many NPCs use handsigns now though.)

[knight_shadow]

If you're just wanting to vent, there's really no need to be defensive.

You know that you can't join another organization in the council. Do as others have said -- initiate change, serve elsewhere (another chapter or a service organization), or turn in your letters.

The end.

[humblerumble]

Knight:
Thanks for your thoughts...but I'm not really sure why you say I'm being defensive.

Thank you anyway, and have a good day

I understand my options, and I honestly think I am very close to choosing the last one you mentioned. I don't feel I would be of great benefit to an org that isnt really on my heart. And out of respect for those ladies, as well as myself, I think I should remove myself from the org.

Thanks again!

[knight_shadow]

You're welcome, and good luck.

[humblerumble]

Kansas City:
I didnt mean it that way.
Now you're being defensive

I meant just what Senusret I said, exactly as I said as well.
We all learn more after we join. I didnt mean anything more than that.

[Kansas City]

Originally Posted by humblerumble

Kansas City:
I didnt mean it that way.
Now you're being defensive

I meant just what Senusret I said, exactly as I said as well.
We all learn more after we join. I didnt mean anything more than that.

Sorry to have taken it that way but I never claimed to not be defensive about my choice of an organization. Good luck.

[Senusret I]

That's really not a flounce....the person she was talking to has said the EXACT same thing to other posters on this board.

[Gusteau]

Hmm perhaps I could have used a better word choice. In any case, my opinion on the OP's commitment to her sorority remains the same

[nittanyalum]

Yay, another trainwreck! Wow, so glad I have a free night for once. Bring on the dramz, GC, I've been missin' it!