Physical appearances you refuse to date.

[libramunoz]

Originally Posted by I.A.S.K.

I don't understand what is dishonest or unrealistic about the belief that a person should be judged on their character and merit and not on their attire. I think that is quite realistic.
What is unrealistic is believing that you wont be judged based on what you wear. You will. You'll also probably be judged based on your skin color, gender, hair style etc. at some point. It isnt right, but it happens.

We "kids" do wonder why people react to us the way they do because most of you should have been through the same thing. When you were a kid your parents thought the way you dressed was unappealing, but you liked it. Same thing with kids these days. Nothing new under the sun. The weird thing about it is that you cant teach an old dog new tricks, but it seems that some old dogs cant remember the tricks they were taught when they were young. This is why while new dogs are wondering why they're back at the pound old dogs are wondering why they never left.

The issue at hand was this young man that apparently lacked the sense to be both quiet and to use what sense a person should have.

However, IASK, people are judged by the first impressions that they give. It's just a matter of fact. People judge you when you first walk in a door whether it is a conscious or unconsious judgement, it just happens. Most people just either learn to put them aside and deal with the matter at hand or they allow their issues to transfer onto others in a covert or uncoverted manner. It just happens.

As far as the dressing style, when I was growing up, since I went to school in the country for the last 5 years of going to school, the kids dressed in a "country" manner. We went by the school dress codes. We dressed like kids in the late 80s and early 90s. As far as me, I dressed according to what I sewed and my parent was never "upset" or had any "issue" with the way that I dressed. Some would call it conserative and some wouldn't. However, being a big girl, I knew what looked good on me and what didn't, I knew what to sew for myself and what not to sew.

However, the issue is about making that first impression a decent one and not one that would have people wondering "WTF" was going on in their head that morning. And the typical impression of someone wearing a "thuggish" look is that they are a "thug," regardless of if they a brainaic or not.