Single ladies, how do you respond to "why aren't you married yet?"

[justabeachbrat]

[quote=AGDee;1789988]When people have asked me that recently, I say stuff like "We're not so good at marriage in my family" since my history looks worse than yours, justabeachbrat:

Parents: divorced after 23 years married
Brother: just got married a week ago, his third
Me: divorced twice, 1 after 14 months, 1 after 7 years

I did forget one....it was so quick.
My older sister eloped, married a guy on the rebound, she'd met at party--they did date a few weeks--they eloped to Las Vegas, this was when she was a college junior. I was in the dorms for summer school, she calls, says she is coming over, with a surprise. Her surprise was the elopement had been a mistake, she and they guy were parting. My mom had learned of the "wedding" and she calls to discuss a reception. Surprise, mom.

My sister had a very pretty wedding, on the beach in front of her apartment in SoCAl. She then moved the next day to Texas, the "groom" had been a guy she knew in high school, they met again through a mutual friend. He was a jerk before, and remained a jerk. From Texas, she moves to Wyoming, and he moves to CA. Just plain crazy.

I hope to marry, if it happens, fine. I have seen the marriages of friends implode, and also some who are happy.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by AGDee

twinkle555: I can understand parents asking after you've been in a 4 year relationship, depending on how it's asked. There's a way to nag about it and there's a way to just be interested in whether your child is thinking that way about a long term boyfriend.

Originally Posted by twinkle555

They like to switch from a very annoying nag to a "we're just inquiring!"

AUGH. My in-laws do the same thing when they bring up the topic of our having a baby. One second it's "You'd make such a good mother!" or "It's different when it's your own" or "Awww, look at the cute little baby over there!" and the next second it's "Of course, it's up to you when you want to have children." (Note: "when", not "if".)