Single ladies, how do you respond to "why aren't you married yet?"

[lovespink88]

Originally Posted by ThetaDancer

A friend of my parents (whom I never really liked, but he's friends with the family and has kids around our age so we all sort of grew up together...) told me the other day that I'm "approaching old maid status." I'm 25 and just ended a significant relationship, so it was especially inappropriate timing

That's horrible! If it makes you feel better, I just had a family friend ask me how I got into my school. He was being completely serious, too. Not quite the same, but still a bit insulting sounding, even he didn't mean it that way...

[BlueCarnation]

Originally Posted by lovespink88

That's horrible! If it makes you feel better, I just had a family friend ask me how I got into my school. He was being completely serious, too. Not quite the same, but still a bit insulting sounding, even he didn't mean it that way...

I'm in my mid-30s, have been dating my bf for 4 years, and get this all the time. My family staged a sort of "intervention" to see if I ever planned to get married to him--they had been talking about it behind my back and actually drew straws to see who would "confront" me about it! I'm usually perfectly content with my relationship with my bf, but then people tell me that we "should" be married by now, and then I get anxious. I hate it. But it's none of their business. I have plenty of friends who have kids and are divorced, and I am glad that I am not in that situation. I am the only one from my pledge class still not married, but I don't feel bad about it, so I don't know why anyone else should worry about it either.

PS: Lovespink88, don't listen to those idiots who are worked up about the admissions stuff--yes, that's a total aside from the purpose of this post, but the Trib is just trying to get readers and your degree is worth a lot!

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by lovespink88

That's horrible! If it makes you feel better, I just had a family friend ask me how I got into my school. He was being completely serious, too. Not quite the same, but still a bit insulting sounding, even he didn't mean it that way...

I would have said, "Ever heard of the casting couch? This was like the admissions couch." or something of that ilk How rude.

If one more person asks me when we're having kids, I'm going to get violent.

ETA: Or my new response may become, "Why? Have you started a trust fund? How kind of you!"

[BlueCarnation]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

I would have said, "Ever heard of the casting couch? This was like the admissions couch." or something of that ilk How rude.

If one more person asks me when we're having kids, I'm going to get violent.

ETA: Or my new response may become, "Why? Have you started a trust fund? How kind of you!"

The whole kids thing bothers me so much more than the marriage issue. I know quite a few people who have struggled to conceive, and would never dream of asking anyone about it. People just don't get it. I'm sorry you have to go through that. My old boss and his wife never had kids, and he constantly was asked why. I can't believe people would ask such a question! My stepmom always asks my brother and sil when they are going to have kids, and I finally told her to lay off. She just couldn't understand why it would bother someone. Um, hello?

[AlphaXi_Husky]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

I would have said, "Ever heard of the casting couch? This was like the admissions couch." or something of that ilk How rude.

If one more person asks me when we're having kids, I'm going to get violent.

ETA: Or my new response may become, "Why? Have you started a trust fund? How kind of you!"

ITA - it drives me batty. I will have kids when I damn well feel like it! And I think I might steal your answer - that ought to quiet some of my family!