Recommendation Caution to PNM's

[Rach008]

Hey
I'm a freshman and I participated in formal recruitment at my school this past fall but I didn't get invited back to the house I really wanted. I was really upset and dropped out of recruitment, which I now realize was a really bad decision on my part.
Anyway, joining a sorority is something I've wanted for a long time...but I am transferring to a different college next fall and I don't know if I should go through formal recruitment again. As much as I want to be a part of a chapter I am really scared that I am just going to be depressed again. Any suggestions?
Also, at the school I am transferring to I am a legacy at one of the chapters. Does this mean I will have a better chance of being invited into that sorority??
Oh, also I am wondering is it important to have reccomendations??
Any other information would be really helpful!!!

ThAnKs!!!
Rach<3

Originally Posted by Rach008

Hey
I'm a freshman and I participated in formal recruitment at my school this past fall but I didn't get invited back to the house I really wanted. I was really upset and dropped out of recruitment, which I now realize was a really bad decision on my part.
Anyway, joining a sorority is something I've wanted for a long time...but I am transferring to a different college next fall and I don't know if I should go through formal recruitment again. As much as I want to be a part of a chapter I am really scared that I am just going to be depressed again. Any suggestions?
Also, at the school I am transferring to I am a legacy at one of the chapters. Does this mean I will have a better chance of being invited into that sorority??
Oh, also I am wondering is it important to have reccomendations??
Any other information would be really helpful!!!

ThAnKs!!!
Rach<3

At some schools, having recommendations is very important. At other schools, they're not that important. Some schools have members who don't even know what to do with them. Without knowing your campus (and I don't suggest revealing that at all), it's hard to tell. Try and do a search on GreekChat to see if there are any rush threads from your new school.

Being a legacy does not guarantee you a bid. They are extended certain courtesies, however. If you decide to rush, you may want to ask your relative member to fill out a legacy introduction form (if they have one).

If you think you can handle the possibility of rejection once again, go ahead and rush. If you can't, then don't.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by OTW

Being a legacy does not guarantee you a bid. They are extended certain courtesies, however. If you decide to rush, you may want to ask your relative member to fill out a legacy introduction form (if they have one).

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ditto was otw said.

you will be at a different school, making a fresh start. as long as you think you can deal with the worse case scenario, why not give formal recruitment a chance?

i always say that it won't hurt to get recs. do you know some girls in sororities at your new school? you could ask them if recs. are common there.

do ask your relative who is a member of a chapter at your new school to write you a rec. there may or may not be a legacy introduction form-she will know.

most of the time, at the least, a legacy will be extended an invitation to the first invitational party. legacies are not guaranteed a bid.

[pnm2be]

I'm just a junior in high school so I have awhile till I need recs, but I was wondering if I cannot find someone to write all my recs and I need the local Alumnae Panhellenic Chapter to help me out they won't mind writing one if they don't know me? Also when should I start collecting recs? Thanks for the help!

[SWTXBelle]

It is not a bad idea to find out now if your friends, family, teachers, etc., are in a sorority. Do not ask for a recommendation now - wait until you have your college acceptance in hand and have signed up with your school Panhellenic. Next year, register with your local Alumnae Panhellenic. They will facilitate getting your information to different alumnae, and odds are you will have recs written for you. Do not, however, count on that. Try to secure at least one rec for each house through networking. Good luck.

[pnm2be]

Thanks SWTXBelle. Your information was really helpful