Ettiquette questions "is" or "was"

[APhiAnna]

Originally Posted by tri deezy

I usually just say "I'm an alumna member of Tri Delta." It includes that I'm a member currently, and it also includes that I'm an alumna. It's true that saying "I am a Tri Delta" would confuse non-Greeks. They'd probably be like, "didn't you graduate college already?"

I agree that, in NPC at least, saying "I'm an alumna [member] of XYZ" is usually the best way to go. In our culture at least, saying "I'm a XYZ" sometimes raises eyebrows about being "too involved" (sad, but true to those not familiar with NPCs), but saying "I was an XYZ" is sort of disrespectful.

[gphifoxAL]

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

...but saying "I was an XYZ" is sort of disrespectful.

Agreed. It's a sort of wishy-washy subject, because some people feel that when you say "oh I was an XYZ" that you're (for lack of a better term) 'done' with the organization. I know that I will consider my membership lifelong and I plan to participate in an alumna group when I graduate. I guess a lot of it is how the individual considers it to be.