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Originally Posted by SigmaPezY60
It's more important that the parent teach the child what is inappropriate for an ADULT be doing to the child than anything and to tell the child that if and adult does things like that, no matter who the adult is or what the adult tells the child, that the child should tell the parent immediately.
I don't have kids, so its difficult to put myself into that position and maybe that makes my advice moot. But it is NEVER the fault of the child. We live in times, where not every adult we intereact with can be trusted. So take advantage of some states' programs that allow you to find out the names & addresses of sex offenders in your area.
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While I agree with what you are saying, and in a perfect world, that is what parents can do for the protection of their children. However, a lot of sexual trauma does not get enacted by strangers, but by someone the child knows well...
And usually, the child is old enough to hear what the adult said as to "not to tell anyone, that's our little secret" and gets a prize, token or candy, and moves on. The disconnect is the child grows up and finds out how morally ugly it is, and if it was violent, they act out by hurting other children.
Yes, they should tell the loving parent that this is going on. But children aren't doing it because, of several reasons, traumatized and forgets, the parent is a drug addict and the person's doing the trauma is the boyfriend/husband, and/or a no one believed the child--i.e. no visible marks, etc.
So, it is irresponsible for an ordained pastor to run upon this with trepidation... I am sorry, I don't know how to do that...
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