I AM SO ANGRY ABOUT THIS COMMENT!!! IDK WHERE TO PUT IT!!!

[SigmaPezY60]

It's more important that the parent teach the child what is inappropriate for an ADULT be doing to the child than anything and to tell the child that if and adult does things like that, no matter who the adult is or what the adult tells the child, that the child should tell the parent immediately.

I don't have kids, so its difficult to put myself into that position and maybe that makes my advice moot. But it is NEVER the fault of the child. We live in times, where not every adult we intereact with can be trusted. So take advantage of some states' programs that allow you to find out the names & addresses of sex offenders in your area.

[VAgirl18]

Originally Posted by SigmaPezY60

It's more important that the parent teach the child what is inappropriate for an ADULT be doing to the child than anything and to tell the child that if and adult does things like that, no matter who the adult is or what the adult tells the child, that the child should tell the parent immediately.

I don't have kids, so its difficult to put myself into that position and maybe that makes my advice moot. But it is NEVER the fault of the child. We live in times, where not every adult we intereact with can be trusted. So take advantage of some states' programs that allow you to find out the names & addresses of sex offenders in your area.

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[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

He responded to basic questions I asked. The original poster, which I gave the link to, and you can go to anytime you desire, asked how she should handle this, I gave her my opinion.

The second quote was to my opinion. After he said that parents need to control the sexual innuendoes of children toward older youths and adults is when it is inappropriate to those who are ordained under the cloth...

Now, continue on with asinine logic. I hate you, period.

When I clicked on the link, I had to register for a new site, which I'm not going to do. You did not state that the second opinion was a response to yours, so I read the quotes for what they were, a back to back response.

Originally Posted by SigmaPezY60

It's more important that the parent teach the child what is inappropriate for an ADULT be doing to the child than anything and to tell the child that if and adult does things like that, no matter who the adult is or what the adult tells the child, that the child should tell the parent immediately.

I don't have kids, so its difficult to put myself into that position and maybe that makes my advice moot. But it is NEVER the fault of the child. We live in times, where not every adult we intereact with can be trusted. So take advantage of some states' programs that allow you to find out the names & addresses of sex offenders in your area.

I agree with all of that, too.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

When I clicked on the link, I had to register for a new site, which I'm not going to do. You did not state that the second opinion was a response to yours, so I read the quotes for what they were, a back to back response.

Your choice, but that still does makes you a vile person in my opinion...

Go away, please, I beg of you. I hate you so much right now, I cannot stand you.

[ZTAngel]

This has gotten out of hand. Thread closed.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by SigmaPezY60

It's more important that the parent teach the child what is inappropriate for an ADULT be doing to the child than anything and to tell the child that if and adult does things like that, no matter who the adult is or what the adult tells the child, that the child should tell the parent immediately.

I don't have kids, so its difficult to put myself into that position and maybe that makes my advice moot. But it is NEVER the fault of the child. We live in times, where not every adult we intereact with can be trusted. So take advantage of some states' programs that allow you to find out the names & addresses of sex offenders in your area.

While I agree with what you are saying, and in a perfect world, that is what parents can do for the protection of their children. However, a lot of sexual trauma does not get enacted by strangers, but by someone the child knows well...

And usually, the child is old enough to hear what the adult said as to "not to tell anyone, that's our little secret" and gets a prize, token or candy, and moves on. The disconnect is the child grows up and finds out how morally ugly it is, and if it was violent, they act out by hurting other children.

Yes, they should tell the loving parent that this is going on. But children aren't doing it because, of several reasons, traumatized and forgets, the parent is a drug addict and the person's doing the trauma is the boyfriend/husband, and/or a no one believed the child--i.e. no visible marks, etc.

So, it is irresponsible for an ordained pastor to run upon this with trepidation... I am sorry, I don't know how to do that...