need some advice asap!

[Buttonz]

If you have to ask other people then your not ready. End of story.

[Fleur de Lis]

Originally Posted by Buttonz

If you have to ask other people then your not ready. End of story.

Other people meaning random chat board people who don't know actually know you.

A lot goes along with sex that they don't teach in sex ed. It can build a false sense of intimacy (especially for women) and breaking up is that much harder. Also, once you've lost your virginity, it's difficult to wait until your true partner comes along, so you may lower your standards because a guy is "there" and into you. Are you prepared to deal with unexpected consequences like an STD or pregnancy? Has he been tested for an STD? (Men can be carriers without symptoms, so his word isn't enough.) Is it worth it for a guy you like, but doesn't seem committed to you in any form? I know you are curious, but I hope you will make a fully informed decision before you decide to go through with it.

[Thetagirl218]

[quote=Fleur de Lis;1756031]
A lot goes along with sex that they don't teach in sex ed. It can build a false sense of intimacy (especially for women) and breaking up is that much harder. Also, once you've lost your virginity, it's difficult to wait until your true partner comes along, so you may lower your standards because a guy is "there" and into you. Are you prepared to deal with unexpected consequences like an STD or pregnancy? Has he been tested for an STD? (Men can be carriers without symptoms, so his word isn't enough.) Is it worth it for a guy you like, but doesn't seem committed to you in any form? I know you are curious, but I hope you will make a fully informed decision before you decide to go through with it.[/quote

Agreed!

[Kevin]

Study: Teenage 'virginity pledges' are ineffective

Youths who promise abstinence are also less likely to use protection


Teenagers who pledge to remain virgins until marriage are just as likely to have premarital sex as those who do not promise abstinence and are significantly less likely to use condoms and other forms of birth control when they do, according to a study released today.

The new analysis of data from a large federal survey found that more than half of youths became sexually active before marriage regardless of whether they had taken a "virginity pledge," but that the percentage who took precautions against pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases was 10 points lower for pledgers than for non-pledgers.



"Taking a pledge doesn't seem to make any difference at all in any sexual behavior," said Janet E. Rosenbaum of the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, whose report appears in the January issue of the journal Pediatrics. "But it does seem to make a difference in condom use and other forms of birth control that is quite striking."

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/28415602/