I really need advice. Help!

[RaggedyAnn]

Have you tried to ask if you could come along? I ask this because I was in a similar situation at one point. Everyone would be talking about going out and no one was inviting me. When I talked to someone about it, they said they assumed I knew I was invited because I was in the room when they were talking about it.

You may also want to ask your Big Sister for help. Ask her if you can hang out with her when she is going to events where there will be sisters. I wouldn't worry about just hanging out with your pledge class.

I would also make sure you are going to all of the service events, meetings, etc. Those are great places to make friends.

Good luck!

[FSUZeta]

see if you can join a committee of your sorority. sometimes being able to break a large group down into a smaller group can help you get to know someone better.

are you a member of any other organizations on campus? if not, i would encourage you to join one that holds an interest for you or/and is pertinent to your major. as stated above, breaking a larger group down(the campus) into a smaller group(the org. you join) can provide the opportunity to get to know the other members better, and might enable you to make a good friend.

sometimes the timing of a question dictates the answer you get. if you are asking your pledge sisters on friday night what they are doing over the weekend,it might be too late. they may have already made plans and if they don't know you well, they may be hesitant to invite you along or even possibly cannot include you.

what if you make a lunch or coffee date with one of the girls that you feel closer to? try to get to know her. you can practice the rush skills you will be using next year when you are the member rushing pnms. keep getting together with pledge sisters until you click with one. you could also try this technique with the older sisters. just casually mention that you would love to grab a coffee with them one day this week and ask her what day/time is best for her.

i think that the first year in the sorority can be awkward, because there comes a time when the new member is more "on their own" than before-usually after initiation. it is similar to the let down one experiences after a much looked forward to event is over.

if your chapter has a house, you will most likely make some fast friendships if you live in the house.