Would my last name blackball me?

Originally Posted by bevinpiphi

He didn't call you a social leper.

He said that if you ask random questions like this during recruitment...like, with the girls in the room, you will look like a social leper to them.

I understand that, thank you for clarifying for him. However the last bit about how I was raised...well, you can't argue for him in that respect. It was disrespectful. I am not going to argue who is in the right and who is in the wrong, my simple question turned into him publicly saying that I am soliciting this community, when there are tons of girls on here doing the same thing. I'm done talking about it and I got my answer from people who are less rude, and more patient so it doesn't matter. You can't tell me that was a polite post on his part. Because well, it wasn't. It doesn't matter anyway, like I said, I got my answer and I thank you all.

[Senusret I]

OMGWTFBBQ

BBQ huh. I am done with this. If a simple question will be turned into harassment. well...I'm done.

[Senusret I]

YOU ARE OBVIOUSLY NOT DONE BECAUSE YOU KEEP RESPONDING.

Look, I know my post and thread are going to likely disappear because anything that's not seen as holding a PNM's hand inevitably is seen as harassment, but I'm going to say it.

You're asking stupid questions and you're being ridiculously sensitive.

Kevin (who I could take or leave on a good day) REALLY did not disrespect you. You are acting like you don't have any common sense or any friends to ask these ridiculous questions of.

I mean, you admit yourself that you got information from non-Greeks.

So AGAYNE I say:

OMG

WTF?

BBQ!

[epchick]

Originally Posted by lovelyinpearlss

BBQ huh. I am done with this. If a simple question will be turned into harassment. well...I'm done.

Are you serious? Please be done, and leave, before you see "harrassment." Really, don't go on a message board and ask an absolutely ABSURD question if you can't handle a response that's a little critical.

[jessica.lanelle]

I got everything but the BBQ... what does that mean?

[ta kala]

Not to stir the pot some more, but I do know of some schools where a Jewish last name would prompt some groups to assume a PNM will go to a certain sorority. I am not saying the OP needs to start freaking out, but depending on her school, it's a legitimate question.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by lovelyinpearlss

I understand that, thank you for clarifying for him. However the last bit about how I was raised...well, you can't argue for him in that respect. It was disrespectful. I am not going to argue who is in the right and who is in the wrong, my simple question turned into him publicly saying that I am soliciting this community, when there are tons of girls on here doing the same thing. I'm done talking about it and I got my answer from people who are less rude, and more patient so it doesn't matter. You can't tell me that was a polite post on his part. Because well, it wasn't. It doesn't matter anyway, like I said, I got my answer and I thank you all.

You may be way too sensitive to go through life, let alone go through sorority recruitment.

With all the responses you received that answered your question, you are going to hang on to his response and change your (already quoted) post because of his reponse? Seriously, you're that easily knocked off kilter?

Newbies usually only rant like you are when the majority of the posters in a thread respond as Kevin did.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by jessica.lanelle

I got everything but the BBQ... what does that mean?

Barbecue. I had some turkey BBQ for Thanksgiving. It was splendid.

Originally Posted by ta kala

Not to stir the pot some more, but I do know of some schools where a Jewish last name would prompt some groups to assume a PNM will go to a certain sorority. I am not saying the OP needs to start freaking out, but depending on her school, it's a legitimate question.

Anything's possible with these hypotheticals. That reinforces how some PNM questions are best left for real life observations and interactions and can't be answered by message boarders.

[honeychile]

I suppose no one remembers when they were a newbie, and had reasonable questions based on what recruitment used to be like.

[SWTXBelle]

My take on it - unless she is planning on changing her last name, there is nothing she can do about THAT. I still think that the odds are very high that it will not make a bit of difference to most, if not all, the sororities on her campus. She should focus on what she CAN do something about - namely recommendations, preparing for recruitment conversations, etc.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by epchick

Are you serious? Please be done, and leave, before you see "harrassment." Really, don't go on a message board and ask an absolutely ABSURD question if you can't handle a response that's a little critical.

Better a critical response here than a lack of one, sending you on your merry way to completely embarrass yourself during recruitment.

GC has been around 9 years. If you're [referring to OP] the first person to ask a question about recruitment, then it probably doesn't need to be asked.

I have no clue what the OP is like in real life. She could be the warm, attractive, socially adept, etc. That, however, is not the way she's presenting herself here.

This isn't disrespect, it's help. If these comments hit a little too close to home, then I think we may have identified some areas where she needs to improve herself.

[Nanners52674]

I just want to know what her last name is. . .

[catiebug]

Will your last name blackball you? No.

Will your attitude (as evidenced in this thread)? Yes.

'nuff said.

[ellebud]

As the mother of a daughter your age, and as a Jewish woman (without a "Jewish" last name) who went through rush at a time when Jews only were invited to a "Jewish" house I will try and answer your question.

If you a so inclined to exclude a house simply because it is historically Jewish (or mostly Jewish) wear a cross. I imagine that the sisters at that house (or houses) would get your message very quickly. If a house excludes you because of your name (at least in your mind) then you must ask yourself if that is a house that you want. If the answer is, Yes, I want to be part of a house (if they still exist) that would exclude my mother or grandmother because of their religion or suspicion of a religious affiliation...why? You will always be watched for "signs" of being Jewish. And that isn't sisterhood.