lil sis rush

pirateladybug9 · #1 11-08-2008, 01:30 AM

At my school, it's generally unspoken big/lil sister/brother. I have both a little and big brother, so do other members of my chapter. It is "frowned upon" by our nationals because of the sterotypes that come along with it (for example, when my big's national consultant came, he didn't completly understand how big/little was run at our school, in other chapters, they are just drinking buddies or sex partners).
My big and I became close and he asked me to be his little one day, same goes for my little, he asked me to be his big. My big's big sis is from a totally different chapter than I am. You generally have one big sis/brother from your own chapter and one from a fraternity/sorority, then as many littles as you want/can afford. The chapter never assigns you a specific chapter to be with, let alone your big/little.
Typically, the bigs get the littles a hoodie with the LITTLE's letters on it (you can't wear another chapters letters unless you go through certain ceremonys as detailed in bylaws or ritual) and underneath it will have the big's chapter SPELLED OUT lil' bro/sis. The littles usually make a paddle. I made my big a paddle and letters, same for my little.
I love my big and little, and don't really see how the "tradition" could become so skewed like you guys describe

KSUViolet06 · #2 11-08-2008, 01:37 AM

Ok. Good for you. You bought letters and a paddle for a guy.

Like I said, most NPC sororities discourage these types of relationships/programs, because it has the potential to cause drama within the sorority chapter or devolve into something completely inappropriate. Does it happen 100% of the time? Nope. But it has obviously caused enough issues for sorority HQs to decide that it's not something they'd want their members involved in.

And really, you can be close friends with a guy in a fraternity without having to call him big, buy him letters, etc.

33girl · #3 11-08-2008, 01:35 PM

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And really, you can be close friends with a guy in a fraternity without having to call him big, buy him letters, etc.

Exactly. To be blunt, it seems to be the equivalent of spitting on food so no one else will eat it. "OMG HE'S MY BIG BROTHER GET OFF HIM YOU SLUT!"

The other thing I don't get is if it's at a small school where everyone in the Greek system is in each other's pockets anyway. It just seems like a way to create drama.

pirateladybug9 · #4 02-05-2009, 04:15 PM

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Exactly. To be blunt, it seems to be the equivalent of spitting on food so no one else will eat it. "OMG HE'S MY BIG BROTHER GET OFF HIM YOU SLUT!"

Actually its nothing like that at all. My big is really close to alot of members of my chapter and has other littles as well. Also, he's had a few girlfriends throughout the course of our "relationship".

Personally, I don't understand why its such a huge deal to all of you. I don't think you should sit there and knock big bro-lil sis relationships until you have one yourself. Its not about having someone call you a little and be degrading or anything like that.

KSUViolet06 · #5 02-05-2009, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by pirateladybug9

Personally, I don't understand why its such a huge deal to all of you. I don't think you should sit there and knock big bro-lil sis relationships until you have one yourself. Its not about having someone call you a little and be degrading or anything like that.

Holy thread from 4 months ago batman.

If you're in an NPC sorority, you should ask your HQ that question hun. I'm 99% that NONE of the NPC HQs approve of it either, so it's not just us here.

33girl · #6 02-06-2009, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by pirateladybug9

Actually its nothing like that at all. My big is really close to alot of members of my chapter and has other littles as well. Also, he's had a few girlfriends throughout the course of our "relationship".

I guess I just don't understand what the point is putting a label on a good friendship. It seems really juvenile. Isn't it enough to just say that "Josh and I are really good friends"?

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Originally Posted by pirateladybug9

Typically, the bigs get the littles a hoodie with the LITTLE's letters on it (you can't wear another chapters letters unless you go through certain ceremonies as detailed in bylaws or ritual) and underneath it will have the big's chapter SPELLED OUT lil' bro/sis.

I doubt that any groups (male or female) have official ritual for this kind of thing, therefore you're really treading into dangerous territory.