Not getting along with a sister- help!!

[KSUViolet06]

I'm not trying to be rude, but really, what did you expect?

You said she didn't like you. Why would she invite you to do things or talk to you when you complimented her purse?

You can't let this sort of stuff get to you, it's so petty and dumb. She most likely WANTS to get a reaction out of you and make you upset.

Either you learn to ingore it, or you'll be upset at like every single chapter event.

Don't be rude to her, but I wouldn't go out of my way to be overly nice to her and compliment her. Sometimes you just have to stay out of peoples' way.

[crissy1]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I'm not trying to be rude, but really, what did you expect? You said she didn't like you. Why would she invite you to do things or talk to you when you complimented her purse?
You can't let this sort of stuff get to you, it's so petty and dumb. She most likely WANTS to get a reaction out of you and make you upset.

Either you learn to ingore it, or you'll be upset at like every single chapter event.

Don't be rude to her, but I wouldn't go out of my way to be overly nice to her and compliment her. Sometimes you just have to stay out of peoples' way.

wow. I guess I'm the only person that expects common decency of people?
Obiviously I don't like her, but I'm not going to invite all 100+ members of my sorority to a movie calling it a "sisterhood event" and leave out a sister.
But I guess thats just me.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by crissy1

wow. I guess I'm the only person that expects common decency of people?
Obiviously I don't like her, but I'm not going to invite all 100+ members of my sorority to a movie calling it a "sisterhood event" and leave out a sister.
But I guess thats just me.

Ok, but this is obviously someone you have already said doesn't like you and is mean to you.

Surely you didn't expect her to be like "Oh let's invite crissy1 to go see a movie with us?" Probably not. You generally don't expect decency of girls who are mean to you.

Some girls might be the kind of girls who invite people they don't like to go see movies with all the other girls. This girl is not.

Like I said, all this Facebook drama is just to make you mad, and when you get upset, you're playing right into it.

This thread makes me glad I'm an alumna.

[crissy1]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ok, but this is obviously someone you have already said doesn't like you and is mean to you.

Surely you didn't expect her to be like "Oh let's invite crissy1 to go see a movie?"

Some girls might be the kind of girls who invite people they don't like to go see movies with all the other girls. This girl is not.

But obviously this is not a girl who gets along with a lot of people. Do you really think she likes every other girl except for me? Regardless of how whinny posts may make me appear, I am a well-liked girl for the most part. That is why I'm so bothered by this: it's new to me.
The point is, she's on the social committee. When planning events and calling them SISTERHOOD activities, it is inappropriate to leave out sisters.
I really didn't want sympathy, I promise. I just am curious to see how other people in this situation may have handled it, and were successful. I don't neccessarily want to be friends with the girl, but I don't see why we have to be blatantly rude to each other?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by crissy1

But obviously this is not a girl who gets along with a lot of people. Do you really think she likes every other girl except for me? Regardless of how whinny posts may make me appear, I am a well-liked girl for the most part. That is why I'm so bothered by this: it's new to me.
The point is, she's on the social committee. When planning events and calling them SISTERHOOD activities, it is inappropriate to leave out sisters.
I really didn't want sympathy, I promise. I just am curious to see how other people in this situation may have handled it, and were successful. I don't neccessarily want to be friends with the girl, but I don't see why we have to be blatantly rude to each other?

In ANY group of women there is bound to be drama--choir, cheerleading, softball, ANYTHING. There are going to be girls who don't get along.

I'm assuming that if something is an OFFICIAL sisterhood, you don't need a Facebook invite to tell you that you can go. Just go, and have fun. You're part of the sorority and are entitled to be able to attend them. She can't tell you that you can't go to a sisterhood. Also, going to a sisterhood doesn't mean you need to talk to her. Hang out with your friends in the sorority.

[crissy1]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

In ANY group of women there is bound to be drama--choir, cheerleading, softball, ANYTHING. There are going to be girls who don't get along.

I'm assuming that if something is an OFFICIAL sisterhood, you don't need a Facebook to tell you that you can go. Just go, and have fun. You're part of the sorority and are entitled to be able to attend them. She can't tell you that you can't go to a sisterhood.

It's not official because its not in our dues. But technically a movie is a public event so I could go. I doubt I will though. I would rather hang out with people who like me...
I know there's always going to be girl drama, and I tend to be overly senstive about it. I wish I could just be like, "eh she's a bitch" and move on, but I always dwell on things and think about how I can solve them. But I've tried talking to her to see what her problem is and she said there is none...and I'm not rude to her, so I guess I can't do anything else but grow a backbone and do what ASTalumna06 said, when she ignores me, say hi, and when she's rude, act oblivious. My grandma has always said "kill them with kindness" and she's the most popular 84 year old woman I know (and a sorority alumna as well...)
My boyfriend said I should just go to the facebook invite, say I'm attending and say something like, "thanks for the invite!"
Or is that a bad idea?

[KSUViolet06]

In my experience, girls like that will eventually get over you once some new drama comes along and they have someone else to dislike. For example, she's mad at you now for "taking" the Little Sis she wanted, but in a few months, there will be something new going on.