Disappointed mom

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by BadCat25

I assume Disappointed Mom lives in the South and unless you do you will never understand how she feels. The social pressure down there for your daughter to join a top chapter is huge and the total bummer for her to join a low tier chapter let alone God forbid be a GDI. When I was in HS one of my friends older sister had a rush disaster and everyone treated it like it was the end of the world. Like I said, if you are not from the South you will never understand.

This is kind of irrelevant.

Whether you're from the north, south, east, west, or anywhere else in the entire world, you should support your child's decisions and leave them be if they're happy.

The only way I can see the OP getting involved/needing to be concerned is if this sorority was hazing her daughter, was into heavy drugs/drinking, etc., etc. You get the point.

If this is simply a sorority with a smaller chapter and a sparse social calendar, and her daughter is happy, then SHE SHOULD BE HAPPY FOR HER. And that applies no matter which state you live in.

[BadCat25]

I am not saying I agree with it but as a Southern girl I am just trying to tell you how so many people in the South feel. My local newspaper lists the rush results for the local girls and it is a big topic of conversation. I go to college in the North and my university has deferred rush. The women in the local Panhell association were bugging my mom to let them know how my rush went so they could put it in the paper. When it was published a lot of her friends called her with congratulations. It was like this was more important than the fact that I was going to a very highly ranked university, only that I made ABC. My mom, by the way, thinks this is so stupid. She didn't care if I joined a sorority or not.

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by BadCat25

I am not saying I agree with it but as a Southern girl I am just trying to tell you how so many people in the South feel. My local newspaper lists the rush results for the local girls and it is a big topic of conversation. I go to college in the North and my university has deferred rush. The women in the local Panhell association were bugging my mom to let them know how my rush went so they could put it in the paper. When it was published a lot of her friends called her with congratulations. It was like this was more important than the fact that I was going to a very highly ranked university, only that I made ABC. My mom, by the way, thinks this is so stupid. She didn't care if I joined a sorority or not.

Oh, how I wish your mom could "spread the love".

I know in the south that sorority life is the be-all-end-all and thought to be the ticket to society, but it seems like many of these women (people) live in a bubble. What would they do if hubby lost the plantation and they had to move (gasp) to an "unrefined" area of the country where their chapter was considered bottom tier? Of course, most of the rest of the country either doesn't care or realizes that chapters can differ from campus to campus.