bid day - regrets?

33girl · #1 10-16-2008, 09:52 AM

The only time I was really seriously pissed was when a PNM basically had led us on for a semester (to the point that some people thought that she was ALREADY a sister) and then flip-flopped when it came time to sign her bid card. Other than that, yeah it's disappointing, but as OTW said, you get over it - especially when you get some girls you didn't think you had a chance of getting!

Sidenote: this is why I hate the "everyone opens their bids in public at the same time" concept instead of the sororities going to pick up the pledges. It just makes unnecessary drama, for the sorority women and the pledges.
At least when "Flip-Flop" shafted us we had a couple hours to vent about it at the house.

ForeverRoses · #2 10-16-2008, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Sidenote: this is why I hate the "everyone opens their bids in public at the same time" concept instead of the sororities going to pick up the pledges. It just makes unnecessary drama, for the sorority women and the pledges.
At least when "Flip-Flop" shafted us we had a couple hours to vent about it at the house.

We had the PNMs open their bids in public, however the houses recieved bid lists several hours before the PNMs opened thier bids. So if we had been shafted, we still had the time to vent.

I do remember being disappointed when someone went to another house- but I also remember that we never really knew WHY they went to the other house. Did she rank them ahead of us? Was she further up on their bid list than ours? My roomate had a good friend that preffed us and another house. She ended up joining the other house. When the new members were running to their houses, her friend stopped and hugged the roomate and they stayed friends. In fact I have stayed friends with women in 5 different houses.

PJS · #3 10-17-2008, 12:14 AM

The one time I have seen the hurt last longer is when the PNM has a biological sister in the house or very recently graduated. It also stings again at special times like initiation.

KSUViolet06 · #4 10-17-2008, 12:31 AM

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The one time I have seen the hurt last longer is when the PNM has a biological sister in the house or very recently graduated. It also stings again at special times like initiation.

True. I haven't seen this happen with my particular chapter, but I had a friend in another sorority whose younger sister went through recruitment. Big Sister was a senior, so Younger Sister spent her HS years coming to XYZ for Little Sibs weekend, Parents Weekend, etc. It was one of those situations where I think it was assumed between the two of them that Younger Sis would go XYZ. Younger Sister even knew which room in XYZ she wanted to have when she lived in.

Come recruitment time, Younger Sister was cut by XYZ. She got a bid elsewhere, but on Bid Day you could tell that she was upset. I remember seeing Big Sister and she looked quite upset also. Little Sister ended up depledging her sorority shortly after recruitment.

Big Sister was so upset by this that after recruitment, she went early alum [or whatever her sorority calls it]. She didn't mind telling people why when they asked either.

gee_ess · #5 10-17-2008, 09:53 AM

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Come recruitment time, Younger Sister was cut by XYZ. She got a bid elsewhere, but on Bid Day you could tell that she was upset. I remember seeing Big Sister and she looked quite upset also. Little Sister ended up depledging her sorority shortly after recruitment.

Wow, that must have been some discussion that resulted in releasing an inhouse sister! I can only imagine the MS session that resulted in the release, and I shudder to think what the recruitment advisor had to deal with behind closed doors!

alphagamgirl06 · #6 10-17-2008, 11:45 AM

It is a little sad but we have to focus on the girls who wanted us so it is her lost and we wish her the best. Whats worst is when on pref night a girl tells us that she really likes our chapter and she felt that she could really fit in with us, then on Bid Day she gets a bid but doesnt accept it. That really sucks.

Leslie Anne · #7 10-17-2008, 12:29 PM

As most have said, we usually get over any disappointment pretty quickly. Once in a while some girls can get really bent outta shape though.

On my bid day, the girl who took me through pref at the house I didn't choose came to my dorm room to ask what happened. It was very uncomfortable.

One of my friends got dirty looks for weeks from a few girls whose house she didn't choose. (which only convinced her she made the right decision)

I think these are pretty rare cases though. It's usually all good.