Your input please?

[SoCalGirl]

Nick names make it even worse. Since my school is about half Asian it was common for students to not go by their given names. So you develop a rush crush on Jenny Nguyen not knowing that not only are there 6 Jenny Nguyens but also 4 more girls who go by Jenny but aren't named Jenny. So when you get asked about Hanh Nguyen you have no clue who that could be.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by SoCalGirl

Nick names make it even worse. Since my school is about half Asian it was common for students to not go by their given names. So you develop a rush crush on Jenny Nguyen not knowing that not only are there 6 Jenny Nguyens but also 4 more girls who go by Jenny but aren't named Jenny. So when you get asked about Hanh Nguyen you have no clue who that could be.

We had that same problem too. When I was a rho chi, one of my PNMs was accidentally released from XYZ. She registered for recruitment as "Xiao-Min Chan" because that was her legal name, but she went by "Jenny Chan". There was another woman whose legal name actually was Jenny Chan; she was registered for recruitment but never turned up. So XYZ released the wrong Jenny - Xiao-Min. The problem was caught in time, and Xiao-Min pledged XYZ. (Names have been changed to protect the innocent.)

[flffydg9]

Thank-you for all of your comments. My daughter received a phone call on bid day, and was told that the sorority in question would like to offer her a bid. She told the girl who called that she would think about it. After thinking about it, she phoned her back and told her "No, thank-you". When my daughter called me after that, she sounded better and less stressed than she had for awhile. She sounded calm. One hour later, she called me back, crying, wondering if she made the right decision. I told her it was her decision and to do whatever she really wanted. She called the girl again and told her she reconsidered and would like to participate in Bid Day activities. I was happy for her and couldn't wait to hear about the fun. When I spoke to her later, there was no enthusiasm, and she was again questioning whether she'd done the right thing. We spent hours on the phone yesterday evening. Now, her question is, Is the bid binding? She has signed nothing. Remember, she didn't attend Preference, so no Pref card to sign. Nor did she sign a COB agreement. She was simply handed her bid card, by the sorority, at Bid Day activities. She is again questioning whether she's done the right thing. This is all her decision, and her Dad and I have made that clear. Hours and hours on the phone are stressful, though.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by flffydg9

Thank-you for all of your comments. My daughter received a phone call on bid day, and was told that the sorority in question would like to offer her a bid. She told the girl who called that she would think about it. After thinking about it, she phoned her back and told her "No, thank-you". When my daughter called me after that, she sounded better and less stressed than she had for awhile. She sounded calm. One hour later, she called me back, crying, wondering if she made the right decision. I told her it was her decision and to do whatever she really wanted. She called the girl again and told her she reconsidered and would like to participate in Bid Day activities. I was happy for her and couldn't wait to hear about the fun. When I spoke to her later, there was no enthusiasm, and she was again questioning whether she'd done the right thing. We spent hours on the phone yesterday evening. Now, her question is, Is the bid binding? She has signed nothing. Remember, she didn't attend Preference, so no Pref card to sign. Nor did she sign a COB agreement. She was simply handed her bid card, by the sorority, at Bid Day activities. She is again questioning whether she's done the right thing. This is all her decision, and her Dad and I have made that clear. Hours and hours on the phone are stressful, though.

No, her attendance at bid day and consideration of a snap bid are not binding. In this case, she is only bound if/when she signs something.