Getting too close to new members?

[KSUViolet06]

I'm not sure why anyone would say this, unless you were doing things like:

*creating a risk management issue (doing something like supplying alcohol for the minors and hosting "Phi Mu New Member drinkfest" at your apt. or something of that nature.)

*telling her things that were only for initiated girls to know.

*only hanging out with her and excluding other new girls and making them feel uncomfortable around you guys.

Those types of situations aren't good for the new members or the chapter. Otherwise, I can't really think of anything.

[CarolinaCutie]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I'm not sure why anyone would say this, unless you were doing things like:

*creating a risk management issue (doing something like supplying alcohol for the minors and hosting "Phi Mu New Member drinkfest" at your apt. or something of that nature.)

*telling her things that were only for initiated girls to know.

*only hanging out with her and excluding other new girls and making them feel uncomfortable around you guys.

Otherwise, I can't really think of anything.

This is a possibility. We have something that we like to call the Phi bubble. Initiated sisters sometimes like to sit around and bitch about things in the chapter, people who aren't doing their jobs, big/lil matching, all kinds of things. If you can't stop yourself from talking about that then you definitely shouldn't be talking to the new members about anything negative. We don't hide things like the existence of academic probation or discipline, but there's no point in talking about any of the occasionally negative things that happen within the chapter. Your new member period should be sunshine and rainbows.

SO in this case, maybe that's the issue? Some people can't be "good friends" with someone without letting all of their negativity hang out.

However, if this ISN'T you, OP, then it's def. a good thing to get close to the new girls! You don't have to be best friends with only your pledge class and your Big!

[crazyqt13]

Originally Posted by CarolinaCutie

This is a possibility. We have something that we like to call the Phi bubble. Initiated sisters sometimes like to sit around and bitch about things in the chapter, people who aren't doing their jobs, big/lil matching, all kinds of things. If you can't stop yourself from talking about that then you definitely shouldn't be talking to the new members about anything negative. We don't hide things like the existence of academic probation or discipline, but there's no point in talking about any of the occasionally negative things that happen within the chapter. Your new member period should be sunshine and rainbows.

SO in this case, maybe that's the issue? Some people can't be "good friends" with someone without letting all of their negativity hang out.

However, if this ISN'T you, OP, then it's def. a good thing to get close to the new girls! You don't have to be best friends with only your pledge class and your Big!

I don't THINK this is me, but I will take it to heart and keep it in mind when I am around the newer girls. Thanks