I have a question about how bidding really works. My daughter is at a VERY competitive school and she was a legacy to
Sorority A.
All through rush, she was invited back to her favorite houses, the maximum number possible, every day. After pref night she called and said that she would be happy at either
Sorority A or
Sorority B but that she had put
Sorority B first on her card. Although I am a member of Sorority A, I encouraged her to follow her heart... no pressure from me... but of course I was a little disappointed...
Then, to her shock, she got a bid from
Sorority A. Unfortunately ALL of her friends went to
Sorority B so she was extremely hurt and disappointed and unhappy with being at Sorority A (I'm not saying this was a reasonable reaction... just that it happened.) She actually considered withdrawing from her pledge class and waiting until next year to rush again so that she could be Sorority B with her friends. I STRONGLY discouraged this. But
SEVERAL older girls from Sorority B told her that they all had wanted her and if she had "suicided" Sorority B, she would have been Sorority B, instead of Sorority A... that she was IN Sorority A because she was a legacy and so was at the top of their list. Could that be true? Could that have really happened? or are they just trying to make excuses for having put her at the bottom of their list?
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