My pledge sister wants to depledge but I really want her to stick it out.

[tinydancer16]

What kind of "tough" are we talking here? Because if it's a question of a large time commitment being the issue for her then I have to say that it really doesn't get too much easier. Sororities take a lot of time and if she can't cope with it now then it's only going to become more difficult as she progresses in school and her workload increases. I think it would be better for her to decide sooner rather than later, as opposed to getting initiated and then become even more swamped.
I know it's tough because you really like her but ultimately she has to make the best decision for herself and that may mean not being in a sorority -that does not mean that the two of you cannot still be friends, make sure she knows that!

[greekintraining]

Originally Posted by tinydancer16

What kind of "tough" are we talking here? Because if it's a question of a large time commitment being the issue for her then I have to say that it really doesn't get too much easier. Sororities take a lot of time and if she can't cope with it now then it's only going to become more difficult as she progresses in school and her workload increases. I think it would be better for her to decide sooner rather than later, as opposed to getting initiated and then become even more swamped.
I know it's tough because you really like her but ultimately she has to make the best decision for herself and that may mean not being in a sorority -that does not mean that the two of you cannot still be friends, make sure she knows that!

yea, i see your point. I hope she makes the right decision for herself too.

[AOII Angel]

greekintraining, your a new member of a NPC organization. No NPC agrees with their New Members taking "crap" just because they're NMs. Talk to an advisor. If this is the kind of "tough" your pledge sister is talking about, I don't blame her for wanting to quit.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

greekintraining, your a new member of a NPC organization. No NPC agrees with their New Members taking "crap" just because they're NMs. Talk to an advisor. If this is the kind of "tough" your pledge sister is talking about, I don't blame her for wanting to quit.

100% agree. Greekintraining, you are being hazed.

[ilovetheviolets]

Just wanted to second that notion, you are being hazed. You should not be being treated like crap by anyone. I don't blame her for wanting out. Like stated above, contact an advisor or someone else outside of the chapter.

[gpb1874]

Let's make this a third! I don't understand why new members put up with crap. I think even when I was 18/19 (which was some time ago), I would have told them to kiss my a**. Serioulsy....join our sisterhood, it's great, you make great friends, but let us be mean, spiteful b****es to you for a while first to prove that we love you so much. who's world that does make sense in?