Are guys told to be nicer?

[EE-BO]

While I salute EW's comment in the name of resenting silly stereotypes, I will say that at good fraternity chapters being respectful of ladies in social settings is expected. Rushees are not instructed in being socially respectable or asked to be nice- if they don't come into rush with that mentality then they have nothing to offer a chapter.

Of all the things a rushee can do to kill a chance of getting a bid, pissing off a female guest at a rush party is number one. And this is why it is vitally important for rush to include social events with ladies. This is the critical test to determine if a rushee is an acceptable candidate.

Incidentally, in my experience this is one reason lousy chapters have a hard time getting ladies to attend their parties. Not knowing how to be respectful to women seems to go hand in hand with so many other issues.