Advise on RE-Joining the fraternity you were initiated in.

[lucgreek]

Originally Posted by imissmabros

I should rephrase my question...

Let say I only need to get voted back in to be an active member again. How could I win back the votes instead of doing the exact opposite?

Also, Let say the same fraternity I joined has an active chapter and I did not re-join my fraternity on campus. Could I rejoin my same fraternity on a different campus?
(I probably should and must ask nationals this... but every time I do something I get my chapter in trouble... so I decided to ask here first and see what you guys think)

I still believe in the values, principles, Greek god, symbols, chants and all the things we did as bros... the view of fraternity that I was initiated was still the same, even when I was hanging out with other fraternities (which I was doing purely out of trying to make my bro's jealous). Even if I don't get the votes back in... I still want to be in, and maybe try a different chapter of the same fraternity where people who uphold and believe in the same values as I learned can take me in.

I'm kinda confused that they don't want me back in to tell you guys the truth... I don't understand how the other fraternities I was hanging out with believe I'm so cool... (which I am). I just get really sad when people who are from other fraternities rather give me a call and invite me to a party and event... and my bros don't even give a mouses ass about me...

If the chapter doesn't want you, you're out of luck. You could try transferring schools and reactivating, but with the time frame you provided, it sounds like you are near graduation, so transferring would be unwise. I don't think anyone on GC could tell you how to win back people because we don't know your chapter or situation personally.

As for grad school, I can't name a single IFC fraternity that would allow grad students to be active members. It honestly sounds like you're just going to have to accept alum status and move on. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but it sounds like the reality of the situation.

Honestly, you need to speak with your chapter president and nationals and see if there can be a remedy. But from what you've said it doesn't look too good for you.

Side note: I really can't blame your chapter though, if someone wasn't around for nearly 2 years at my chapter due to wanting to leave and who turned in their badge and letters, I don't think if I would want them back around for leaving a lifetime commitment so easily.