Advise on RE-Joining the fraternity you were initiated in.

[Senusret I]

How long had you been inactive?

Were you OFFICIALLY officially deactivated? Like, do you still receive the national magazine or whatever at your parents' house?

[lucgreek]

Like the above, did you officially terminate affiliation or did you just stop showing up for things and went inactive? Or did you take early alumni status?

Is this an IFC fraternity or a multicultural one?

As for IFC, I'm almost positive that once you terminate your membership with the organization, it's gone for good. If you took early alumni status then I don't think you can become an active member (It doesn't sound like you took alumni status though).

As for grad school, I don't know of any IFC fraternities that allow people who have finished their undergrad to join.

My advice would be to contact nationals and explain your situation and see what the course of action to take is (if any).

[imissmabros]

A1. I've been inactive for one and a half, maybe two years.

A2. I still get the national magazine, e-mails and all that stuff. I even talked to nationals and they mentioned that all I need to do is get voted back in (that was about 8 months ago...) or officially leave the org.

B1. Yeah, I just stopped showing up for things, I really didn't do anything official on the whole leave issue except for going to one last meeting and telling them I was not coming back... (I left my badge, letters, posters, official initiate document, thongs, and everything except for the things I had with my pledge class).
[and no it was not a gay fraternity if you ask about the thong thing... not that there would be anything wrong with that anyway].

B2. It was an IFC fraternity, and like I wrote before... All nationals sayed was that I only needed to be voted back in. But I haven't asked them about my grad school plans.

[imissmabros]

I should rephrase my question...

Let say I only need to get voted back in to be an active member again. How could I win back the votes instead of doing the exact opposite?

Also, Let say the same fraternity I joined has an active chapter and I did not re-join my fraternity on campus. Could I rejoin my same fraternity on a different campus?
(I probably should and must ask nationals this... but every time I do something I get my chapter in trouble... so I decided to ask here first and see what you guys think)

I still believe in the values, principles, Greek god, symbols, chants and all the things we did as bros... the view of fraternity that I was initiated was still the same, even when I was hanging out with other fraternities (which I was doing purely out of trying to make my bro's jealous). Even if I don't get the votes back in... I still want to be in, and maybe try a different chapter of the same fraternity where people who uphold and believe in the same values as I learned can take me in.

I'm kinda confused that they don't want me back in to tell you guys the truth... I don't understand how the other fraternities I was hanging out with believe I'm so cool... (which I am). I just get really sad when people who are from other fraternities rather give me a call and invite me to a party and event... and my bros don't even give a mouses ass about me...

[lucgreek]

Originally Posted by imissmabros

I should rephrase my question...

Let say I only need to get voted back in to be an active member again. How could I win back the votes instead of doing the exact opposite?

Also, Let say the same fraternity I joined has an active chapter and I did not re-join my fraternity on campus. Could I rejoin my same fraternity on a different campus?
(I probably should and must ask nationals this... but every time I do something I get my chapter in trouble... so I decided to ask here first and see what you guys think)

I still believe in the values, principles, Greek god, symbols, chants and all the things we did as bros... the view of fraternity that I was initiated was still the same, even when I was hanging out with other fraternities (which I was doing purely out of trying to make my bro's jealous). Even if I don't get the votes back in... I still want to be in, and maybe try a different chapter of the same fraternity where people who uphold and believe in the same values as I learned can take me in.

I'm kinda confused that they don't want me back in to tell you guys the truth... I don't understand how the other fraternities I was hanging out with believe I'm so cool... (which I am). I just get really sad when people who are from other fraternities rather give me a call and invite me to a party and event... and my bros don't even give a mouses ass about me...

If the chapter doesn't want you, you're out of luck. You could try transferring schools and reactivating, but with the time frame you provided, it sounds like you are near graduation, so transferring would be unwise. I don't think anyone on GC could tell you how to win back people because we don't know your chapter or situation personally.

As for grad school, I can't name a single IFC fraternity that would allow grad students to be active members. It honestly sounds like you're just going to have to accept alum status and move on. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but it sounds like the reality of the situation.

Honestly, you need to speak with your chapter president and nationals and see if there can be a remedy. But from what you've said it doesn't look too good for you.

Side note: I really can't blame your chapter though, if someone wasn't around for nearly 2 years at my chapter due to wanting to leave and who turned in their badge and letters, I don't think if I would want them back around for leaving a lifetime commitment so easily.

[imissmabros]

Yeah, that's what I thought was most likely going to happen....

I've been trying to go back before this (four months after having left)... It's not like it was the first time I want to go back after two years of being AFK...

I don't understand what you mean by alum status, or what it involves either.

The chapter had various changes... I knew that many people left. They probably think I'm still the same immature pledge or something. Also, having members that don't even know who I am probably has something to do with it...

So, if there is absolutely nothing I can do then thanks for your advise.

[lucgreek]

Originally Posted by imissmabros

Yeah, that's what I thought was most likely going to happen....

I've been trying to go back before this (four months after having left)... It's not like it was the first time I want to go back after two years of being AFK...

I don't understand what you mean by alum status, or what it involves either.

The chapter had various changes... I knew that many people left. They probably think I'm still the same immature pledge or something. Also, having members that don't even know who I am probably has something to do with it...

So, if there is absolutely nothing I can do then thanks for your advise.

You said you still get the fraternity magazines, so it sounds like you never officially disaffiliated from the national organization, so it seems like you're technically a part of it. Call nationals and ask whether you're considered an alum or what.

But as for rejoining the chapter if the sentiment is still to not let you back in, the I doubt they'll let you in.