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[KSUViolet06]

It seems as though you are doing the right thing in trying to include others and deflecting the extra attention. I feel like alot of new members would just be like "oh wow I'm so cool everybody loves me" and the fact that you are concerned shows maturity.

Honestly, I don't know how long it has been since you got a bid, but generally such "fuss" over new girls dies down after a few weeks (at least in my experience). By next semester, I'm willing to bet that they will have moved on and gotten over it.

If the attention really starts to bother you, you can talk to your New Member Educator and let her know. She can probably bring this behavior to the attention of the active sisters and let them know that it's not appropriate.

All you can do is be an active and contributing member, and try to hang out with everyone (not just your class OR the seniors). Yes, your class is important, but it's important to make a variety of friends within your sorority. You can't really control whether someone resents you or not for it.

[RisingSun]

Okay, so I said I was going to bed, but I couldn't sleep--even though I'm exhausted--and it's only like 10:30. I thought I'd read some of the other posts and stickies. I was so surprised some of you replied already!

I was really down just after I wrote my post, thinking I made a mistake going to school away from home, but still mad because I love it here and have always wanted to go here, it works with my major/career goals, everything. Add to that, major PMS (should have known), and then my roommate asked what I was doing online because I looked weird (must have seen me struggling or something!). While I was writing my first post some loud guys had put a note under our door about meeting them in their room tonight (yeh, right, I just can't wait?!). That's when I decided to sign back on, so major thanks for replying.

You gave me some really calming advice, just what the doctor ordered. I'm so happy what I said made sense because I can't really talk about it anymore than what I've said. I agree with the advice that things will die down and liked the idea that as long as I'm friendly with everyone things should all work out. There are so many girls and personalities, it's just a lot to deal with at first.

You made me feel so welcome. I should have come here a while ago. Thanks! Those same guys are at it again and my roomie wants to open the door to see who they are, but I look like a wreck, so I'm off to go hide in bed. I hope to "see" you soon with an update after a while.

Originally Posted by RisingSun

Okay, so I said I was going to bed, but I couldn't sleep--even though I'm exhausted--and it's only like 10:30. I thought I'd read some of the other posts and stickies. I was so surprised some of you replied already!

I was really down just after I wrote my post, thinking I made a mistake going to school away from home, but still mad because I love it here and have always wanted to go here, it works with my major/career goals, everything. Add to that, major PMS (should have known), and then my roommate asked what I was doing online because I looked weird (must have seen me struggling or something!). While I was writing my first post some loud guys had put a note under our door about meeting them in their room tonight (yeh, right, I just can't wait?!). That's when I decided to sign back on, so major thanks for replying.

You gave me some really calming advice, just what the doctor ordered. I'm so happy what I said made sense because I can't really talk about it anymore than what I've said. I agree with the advice that things will die down and liked the idea that as long as I'm friendly with everyone things should all work out. There are so many girls and personalities, it's just a lot to deal with at first.

You made me feel so welcome. I should have come here a while ago. Thanks! Those same guys are at it again and my roomie wants to open the door to see who they are, but I look like a wreck, so I'm off to go hide in bed. I hope to "see" you soon with an update after a while.

You hit the nail on the head up there. It'll seem like it's overwhelming, but that feeling goes away.

That said, enjoy your time on GreekChat. Make sure to post in your sorority's forum so that you can introduce yourself to your new sisters!