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Originally Posted by Kansas City
First flat feet were just a silly example of something that you might not what to announce to total strangers. Instead, I'd like to hear responses to the job and transportation issue I also posed.
I agree that the OP needs to be totally honest and forthright about her relationship, including wearing her ring, during recruitment but I don't think that she needs to announce it to the whole world or should initiate the conversation about her private relationship. I think that doing so will only give potential chapters a reason (albeit, not a very good one) to justify cutting her. I'm not familiar with the campus but if NAU is at all competitive, I'd keep the information under wraps unless asked about it.
Here's what I would suggest as far as the conversation goes ...
HOUSING: (for OP to ask member)
Instead of this: "Tell me about your house. Since I'm married, am I required to live in the house?"
Try this: "Tell me about your house. What are your live-in policies and are their any exceptions?"
RELATIONSHIP: (if member asks about the relationship)
Instead of this: "I'm married, will this be a problem?"
Try this: "I married a wonderful man # years ago but really want to get the most out of my undergraduate experience."
In both situations, the OP is honest but is not providing an obvious reason for the chapters to cut her based on her private situation.
I too will not go into a room and announce to all that "I have Flat Feet!" 
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Kansas City- great suggestions on the verbal skills! It is all in how you pose the question. It will also show interest and have the chapter member talking more about their guidelines. I would imagine many members would not know how to answer the marriage question. Unless they had been posed the question before. ( Or unless thier panhellenic brought it up)
WEll done!
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