Northern Arizona University Formal Recruitment

[irishpipes]

I think most house corps and chapters work well together. But, the corporation has bills to pay, and truthfully, are less likely to be emotionally involved with the chapter members. If a mortage or rent payment has to be made, the corporation has to take in enough money to make it. In my post I said that the chapter might make an exception that the corporation may not recognize. To me, that means the chapter makes a decision to violate policy on behalf of a member. So, even if the chapter's policies are in line with the corporation's, if one of them violates a policy, even with good intentions, they are no longer aligned.

[disasterscookie]

I think I am just going to honest. I think it is so much easier. Plus, I have plenty of friends in a majority of the sororities that I am sure it would get out quite quickly that I was married.
When asked about being married and how it will affect my sorority life, I will simply let them know that I am willing and able to make the commitment, I want it, and obviously I am a commitment kind of person (marriage and sisterhood are both life long commitments, correct?)
In my personal opinion, I think I have much more depth than JUST being married, and if the sororities find it more important that I am married and cannot live in, then I don't think it would be the situation or the organization for me. As it states on many of the threads, sorority life is not for everyone. I want it to be, I think it can be for me...but in the end they have to choose me, correct? And if they don't, then it's obviously not for me...right?
I feel good about it. I rather be honest.
Thank you for all your help and opinions. Friday is the first day of official recruitment, I'm really excited to get started, get some questions answered, and to keep you guys posted on how it goes and what I learn.

[gphiangel624]

Originally Posted by disasterscookie

I think I am just going to honest. I think it is so much easier. Plus, I have plenty of friends in a majority of the sororities that I am sure it would get out quite quickly that I was married.
When asked about being married and how it will affect my sorority life, I will simply let them know that I am willing and able to make the commitment, I want it, and obviously I am a commitment kind of person (marriage and sisterhood are both life long commitments, correct?)
In my personal opinion, I think I have much more depth than JUST being married, and if the sororities find it more important that I am married and cannot live in, then I don't think it would be the situation or the organization for me. As it states on many of the threads, sorority life is not for everyone. I want it to be, I think it can be for me...but in the end they have to choose me, correct? And if they don't, then it's obviously not for me...right?
I feel good about it. I rather be honest.
Thank you for all your help and opinions. Friday is the first day of official recruitment, I'm really excited to get started, get some questions answered, and to keep you guys posted on how it goes and what I learn.

It sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders and that, whatever the outcome, you're going to be happy. I wish you the best of luck.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

I think most house corps and chapters work well together. But, the corporation has bills to pay, and truthfully, are less likely to be emotionally involved with the chapter members. If a mortage or rent payment has to be made, the corporation has to take in enough money to make it. In my post I said that the chapter might make an exception that the corporation may not recognize. To me, that means the chapter makes a decision to violate policy on behalf of a member. So, even if the chapter's policies are in line with the corporation's, if one of them violates a policy, even with good intentions, they are no longer aligned.

Does the house corp care if a member doesn't fulfill her live in "requirement" if there are enough other sisters that want to live in to fill the house?

[breathesgelatin]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Does the house corp care if a member doesn't fulfill her live in "requirement" if there are enough other sisters that want to live in to fill the house?

In my experience, no.

In my chapter of Pi Phi you had to sign a form during the NM period that stated you would live in the house if needed, and that you were obligated to do so.

But my chapter always had more people that wanted to live in the house than were spaces in the house, so it was never a problem. None of the housing obligation forms were ever "called in," so to say.

According to chapter history, when the houses first opened (2000), there was some initial reluctance to live in the house and the house corporation conducted a lottery to decide who would live in. In that case, if you would have refused to live in, but weren't called up during the lottery, it didn't matter to the house corporation either.

Of course we had only 20 spots in our house and ~80-100 members (we grew a lot during my four years), so it was a much different thin than if we'd had 100 spots to fill or something.

[ASUADPi]

I just found out, but didn't know, is that for girls at our ASU chapter who chose not to live in, they just pay an additional fee (for not living in). Honestly, I would say to the OP, enjoy rush, take it one day at a time and cross the bridge of "living in" when the time comes. I'm sure that something can be worked out between you and any sorority that you might possibly join.

As for being married, I'm sure it just depends on each chapters rules. I remember reading some of our rules eons (literally) ago and it didn't say anything about married sisters or sisters with children. I don't know a part of me thinks that if sororities discriminate because a PNM is married or has a child that it could somehow bite them in the butt (especially considering we live in a very "sue happy" society right now).

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Does the house corp care if a member doesn't fulfill her live in "requirement" if there are enough other sisters that want to live in to fill the house?

I know the corp I work on now doesn't care who is in the house, as long as it is full. But, the way it is worded is that it is each member's responsibility to live in the house, and applications for exception are only considered after enough contracts have been received to fill the house. So, if a member still chose not to live in, her choices would be to pay for the empty bed or take suspension.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Does the house corp care if a member doesn't fulfill her live in "requirement" if there are enough other sisters that want to live in to fill the house?

In my chapter, I was property mgr. for a year and if the house was full and we knew all the beds were going to be filled the following year, it was OK.

There were many girls who lived in the house well beyond their 1-yr requirement which "saved" others from having to live in the house, but if it got to the point where there were empty spaces, we went down the list of those who hadn't put in their 1 - yr requirement.

There were very few exemptions - if your parents live withing a certain radius and you were living at home, or if you were an RA, or if you were studying abroad or something. I don't recall being married being one of the exemptions though.

[disasterscookie]

Formal Recruitment Officially starts tomorrow!
The closer it gets the more nervous/uncomfortable I get.
I think I can handle the pressure, but nobody likes rejection.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by disasterscookie

Formal Recruitment Officially starts tomorrow!
The closer it gets the more nervous/uncomfortable I get.
I think I can handle the pressure, but nobody likes rejection.

As hard as rejection can be, bear in mind that you only need ONE bid!