Didn't get invites, what are my options?

[utcutie315]

Also, I do know when my bf will pop the question. Not the exact day but it will be before next fall. He was waiting to ask me after I received a bid and got into a sorority so that I would get to be a part of the ceremonies and etc that sororities have. We’ve even talked about when we would like to get married. I just asked so that would know what sororities usually think about when a girl is engaged or married. I don’t think my relationship is your expertise.

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by utcutie315

He was waiting to ask me after I received a bid and got into a sorority so that I would get to be a part of the ceremonies and etc that sororities have.

Whoa. That is hinging entirely too much on the unknown result of a variable process, you set your expectations way too high and counted on a positive result for way too much, that's part of why you're so upset. You have to be able to let it go and move on, greek life doesn't happen for everyone. It just doesn't.

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Whoa. That is hinging entirely too much on the unknown result of a variable process, you set your expectations way too high and counted on a positive result for way too much, that's part of why you're so upset. You have to be able to let it go and move on, greek life doesn't happen for everyone. It just doesn't.

Co-sign

[EE-BO]

Originally Posted by utcutie315

Also, I do know when my bf will pop the question. Not the exact day but it will be before next fall. He was waiting to ask me after I received a bid and got into a sorority so that I would get to be a part of the ceremonies and etc that sororities have.

This and a subsequent post where you mention your boyfriend is in a fraternity is what made me feel clearer in my mind about the bottom line here.

I do not know you or your situation, but the whole point of posting in a place like GC is to get an honest take from total strangers about the facts you present. This can be a good thing, and I hope what I have to say is helpful.

Taking into account all the information you presented and the reactions you received- plus the nature of your responses- my advice to you would be to seriously consider why you personally want to join a sorority, when that desire arose and why it arose. Also consider whether you maybe were always interested, but might have become more interested in recent times.

These are hard questions- and I apologize for what they imply without my knowing if I am headed down the right path (the downside of asking strangers.) But I do hope answering them will help you- regardless of the final outcome.

Best of luck to you.