Mothers and Daughters

AnchorAlumna · #1 08-07-2008, 04:36 PM

It would be a rare chapter that didn't know you were a legacy, and of what sorority. They don't have to see it on your info form. Many times they hear it from an alum in your hometown.
I wouldn't bring it up, but if you're asked, emphasize that you are looking for a group that's the best fit for you, not your mom or other relatives.

PeppyGPhiB · #2 08-07-2008, 08:21 PM

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Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

It would be a rare chapter that didn't know you were a legacy, and of what sorority. They don't have to see it on your info form. Many times they hear it from an alum in your hometown.
I wouldn't bring it up, but if you're asked, emphasize that you are looking for a group that's the best fit for you, not your mom or other relatives.

Actually, I'd say it's more common for women to have no idea about a legacy going through unless you inform them of it. Maybe in the south word gets around, but in most areas of the country, women go all over for college and no one gives any thought about Susie Q attending Cal State Sacramento, or Jane D attending Michigan State.

FSUZeta · #3 08-07-2008, 08:25 PM

i would reiterate what others have said by stating that it is great to have alumnae list your legacy status on the rec. form they send in, probably okay to list it on your rush registration form, but not a good idea to bring up your legacy status in a conversation, unless questioned about it.

AOII Angel · #4 08-07-2008, 08:42 PM

I can testify to the importance of not bringing up your legacy status in conversation since I mentioned my active AOII sister at parties (I couldn't think of anything else to talk about since I'm nervous in those situations!) and was promptly cut despite a great application from every group...even the struggling chapter. I unknowingly gave off the impression that I was only interested in AOII from day 1. Not a good idea. Just having a legacy on your application is not going to hurt you at the vast majority of schools unless they include Bama, Georgia or any other big SEC school. Those recruitments are completely different!

P.S. If asked about your mother, stress that she wants you to be happy at the chapter that is right for YOU!

ASUADPi · #5 08-07-2008, 09:09 PM

I truly think it is odd that other chapters would cut a girl because she is a legacy to another one. Every recruitment I have worked at, there is always some legacy (to another sorority) going through that our girls just adore and they would be thrilled if they 'stole' her. (I know lame, but kind of cute in a way).

Kansas City · #6 08-08-2008, 09:32 AM

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I truly think it is odd that other chapters would cut a girl because she is a legacy to another one. Every recruitment I have worked at, there is always some legacy (to another sorority) going through that our girls just adore and they would be thrilled if they 'stole' her. (I know lame, but kind of cute in a way).

I agree. If the chapter that I advise really likes another house's legacy they would "rush her hard". It was always a challenge to see if the girl they really wanted would select us (the non-legacy house) over her legacy house.

33girl · #7 08-08-2008, 09:41 AM

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I agree. If the chapter that I advise really likes another house's legacy they would "rush her hard". It was always a challenge to see if the girl they really wanted would select us (the non-legacy house) over her legacy house.

If you have to cut 50% of the girls who come through your party, you're reaching for anything you can get. "She's a legacy, her mom's group will pledge her" is one of those cuts that you can kind of talk yourself into feeling good about. Even if it's not necessarily true.

gee_ess · #8 08-07-2008, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

Actually, I'd say it's more common for women to have no idea about a legacy going through unless you inform them of it. Maybe in the south word gets around, but in most areas of the country, women go all over for college and no one gives any thought about Susie Q attending Cal State Sacramento, or Jane D attending Michigan State.

It is very much a factor and very common knowledge in the south who is a legacy to which house. Word gets around through a variety of sources, and depending on the legacy relationship, girls can be cut based on that fact. If this OP is in an SEC school or other similar Greek situation, she needs to make it very clear in the dorm, in line waiting for a party, in the conversations during the party, with her gamma chi, etc that she is open minded about all the groups and her mother is encouraging her to find her own place.

gee_ess · #9 08-08-2008, 11:26 AM

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It is very much a factor and very common knowledge in the south who is a legacy to which house. Word gets around through a variety of sources, and depending on the legacy relationship, girls can be cut based on that fact. If this OP is in an SEC school or other similar Greek situation, she needs to make it very clear in the dorm, in line waiting for a party, in the conversations during the party, with her gamma chi, etc that she is open minded about all the groups and her mother is encouraging her to find her own place.

See above ^^^^

Being a legacy is not necessarily a negative - but my advice would be to make it clear that you are not tied or dead set on pledging any particular group. AOPi Angels' advice above is good advice and makes the case for watching as well as thinking about what you will say.

The whole point is to position yourself to have options - what you say can influence that.

Elephant Walk · #10 08-08-2008, 02:24 PM

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It is very much a factor and very common knowledge in the south who is a legacy to which house. Word gets around through a variety of sources, and depending on the legacy relationship, girls can be cut based on that fact. If this OP is in an SEC school or other similar Greek situation, she needs to make it very clear in the dorm, in line waiting for a party, in the conversations during the party, with her gamma chi, etc that she is open minded about all the groups and her mother is encouraging her to find her own place.

Absolutely correct.

If she's out of state, I think. The world (and the Southern states) are small enough that everyone knows everyone. And whose someone kin to. Can't hide it, so make sure you let people know that you might not go where your kin.